14-Year Old Declining To Come Back To Fatheris

[taliesin39]

My difficulty requires a young child custody case in the State-Of: Oregon
My ex and I share joint custody of our 2 children - ages 10 & 14. They alternate months around, altering on Wednesdays. We've had this agreement for about 24 months. It really is exercised pretty significantly except that every other Thursday is just a "battle" with my 10 yo who does not want to return to Father's. To date he's eliminated each time with hardly any actual "assist".
Inside the weekend my ex was arrested for domestic assault against his live in GF. The children had been with him at that time. The 10 yo slept by means of it and the 14 yo noticed the turmoil by way of his bedroom door. Getting really utilised to most of these activities (ex abused me all through our partnership), my youngster chosen (as he informed authorities) "to not examine this time around". It was Saturday morning at 1:00 a.m. and I acquired the kids and got them to my house. Later I received a get in touch with from the ex searching for that I keep consitently the youngsters the remaining of his period (by way of Wednesday) and we'd hear from him later. Obviously I agreed but we've not noticed something from him considering that. Gossip has it he proceeded collectively with his Alaskan holiday as the GF goes her factors from the residence.
The kids are scheduled to come back to Fatheris on Thursday. I wasn't astonished to listen to my ten yo claim he doesn't wish to proceed. However now my 14 yo claims he WILL not return to Father's. Claims that he's kind of scared of him and that Father has currently established "zillions" of possibilities to comprehensive the ideal factor-but he keeps messing up.
So I realize that I should adhere to it by returning my little ones to Father's we do have a court order. But when it boils down to it, I do not feel I can truly produce my 14 yo proceed. With Father's aid we possibly may get him there-but then could the bodily participation be viewed child-abuse? And if we did get him over there it'd be extremely possible he would basically go back to my house because I have live only 3 blocks away.
What do I in fact do? Do I permit him to stay at my residence and let him maintain in touch with law enforcement if and once they appear? Do I attempt to in fact push him togo? Picture if law enforcement do appear? Who'd be "in large trouble" and for what?
My kids weren't blamed by me for not attempting to be making use of their father. I had been in a position to divorce him... They do not get that selection.
P.S. I did talk with a lawyer a handful of nights ago and am along the way of attempting to show up with the retainer so I could move ahead this. Even so, my child's refusal to come back to Father's has show up since my assembly.
Thanks ahead of time to anybody who are in a position to support!

[Elton]

[Bardene]

When you talk explain you are indeed aware of his feelings and are working on problem.

[Gilvarry]

Heres an indicator. Contact CPS clarify the issue an dle tthem keep in touch with children. If CPS states they don't experience it safe for kids to determine Father unsupervised you may be in a position to place appointments on-hold pending a court judgment. Your greatest factor would be to talk to the kids. Don't decide Father or them

[Corydon]

I need $3500 to retain the attorney. Is this something I can do without an attorney?
I have not made any promises to my boys. They are aware that the parenting plan is "law" but I have never had my 14 yo act like this before.

[Askook]

Why do you need $3500.00 to file a motion? You might talk to children about this and explain fo rnow they need to go without a fuss but Mom is working on solvong problem. Make no promises

[Dikesone]

It's my purpose to change appointments. First I've to scrape together $3500. This isn't likely to occur just before Friday. Even when it did, nothing might be submitted to create a distinction just before Friday.
Our concerns are: "Just how to I get my boy to come back to his fatheris? May I enter trouble easily can't actually push him to visit to his dad's?"