Abuse, Slander, Everything

[Ofydd]

hello, my name is bintou and i am an african woman now living in africa. You have to excuse me because my first language is french and i am not that good in english. Well here is my story. I am abused by my family. Since the death of my father when I was a student  10 years ago, and depended on them, they decided to abandon me, and they left me pennyless in Canada and I have to go from shelter to shelter and it was difficult because I had no money and i was illegal at that time. I went back in my african country after 3 years of struggle, thanks to a compassionate compatriot who contacted my country's authorities  to send me back home. There, it was awful, I was harassed by my family, mocked because I was homeless . Finally I was able to get a scholarship for an asian country and left my country . But before that, I was beatten by members of my family because I was preparing myself for the scholarship tests. So, I left, very happy to leave that hell of a family. But in Asia, people heard about my past of homelessness and of promiscuity because  well, sometimes I have nowhere to sleep and I ended up sleeping with unknown men, just for a roof, asking no money. I did not bconsidered myself to be a prostitute, just a lost soul, and I was depressed, and vulnerable and peopke abused of my situation rather than help me to get a job, or go back home.  Well, In Asia, other students decided to send me back home and they signed a petition for that. So I am back at square one. Now my life is so difficult because my family is still on my case. They spy on me all the time, they spy my phone, they have hidden a camera in my room, and when I apply for a job, they go see my employer behind my back to tell him, by sleeping with him or offering him or both, not to hire me. It  is just disgusting because it is my mother who wants my brother's daughters or my younger sister to sleep with a potential boss to prevent me from working or with my man when I meet someone. And if I want to argue, they threaten to  beat me, all of them, and to throw me out on the streets! Well, I met  one guy and my younger sister slept with him, and I have 3 older brothers who told me they will beat me up if I want to say something against it. i went to the police station but they bribed the police officers. That man left me  and several months later I met another man. And this man is worst. He is a bully. My family was rich before, my father was in my country 's governement , but after his death, well, we were ruined. And All I want to do is to live like before our bankrupcy.This guy I met  is from a very modest family, he is living in a shakle but he was so warm in the beginning but I know, being an obese woman that maybe that guy, just like the one before him, I know that he was more interested in entering my family than in me as a person. Once again my mother asked my younger sister and my niece to sleep with him in order to make me suffer. I did not know what to do, I have to say that I choose to be with him to escape from my family but they are always me, following me everywhere. I didn't want him to meet my family but he was too hungry I guess. Well, now his mission on earth is to prevent me from working. I was able to meet a journalist to create a project and he beat me for that , and everybody in my family was happy for that, my older brother even gave money to his family. I went to the police but they refused to arrest him, I went to another police station and there I was threatened to be beatten  for pressing charges. I feel trapped, I don't know what to do. I want to commit suicide because there is another project  I wanted to develop with another journalist and my cruel boyfriend just informed me that  he went behind my back to make my project collapse. I don't know what to do. How to get rid of him. Even if I break up with him, contrarly to my previous boyfriend, he just does not want to break all ties with my families and he even stimulate other people to taunt me, knowing that  if i want to defend myself he will beat me up and my family  will bribe the police if I want to press charges. I feel trapped so trapped I need help. What can I do?  Help me

[Dany]

My advice to you is maybe seeking out asylum in the United States, but don't tell your family where you're going if they're like this. I don't know what to tell you about the harassment other than to seek out a remedy with the police your other option is to move out of Africa.