Anxiety problem: The love of my life doesn't think she can be happy if I can't do things with her.?

[christie42]

I've suffered from anxiety/panic attacks for the last few years or so, it is like a never ending circle, I'm confident in most areas (very confident in some) but for some reason this anxiety/panic attack issue has plagued me the last few years, very likely due to quite a few situations and events I went through the last few years. This caused me to stay in more and more and more, which no doubt makes it even worse. A lack of understanding of the friends i've tried to tell it to, has led me to hiding it and literally not telling anyone else about the problem. I just live my life and suffer from it. I did get rid of the crappy negative friends, which is a great thing to do (I highly recommend anyone else to review their life and cut the crap out of their lives too.)

I wanted to be in control of my life and so I started my own business, I have a lot going on in that area and things are really progressing after a few years of determination, i'm making money on multiple fronts, my hope is that I can be financially free and help my parents, and that I can be in control of my life for once and for all, and get back to the stage where I am going out a lot and the anxiety just fades away as I enjoy life more and balance things out to reduce stress.

Anyway, she's a great girl, just what I want, in every way. Unfortunately she doesn't think she can be happy if she has to go out and do things on her own and I have to stay in due to my problem and that's is where things get tough. The potential scenario that could happen is that my problem is still around in the future when we are together. You see I could be better in a few months and be back to my old self, but I just don't know, I had to let her know that the reality is, is that I could have this problem for a while, and if she wanted to do something and I said no, that it wasn't due to me being lazy or anything personal, but just because of my issue.

It saddens me to think this is the case, life is hard enough as it is with this, but this just makes me very sad. This problem once again effects more things than I'd like it to.

I used to tell myself I'd take my life if one more bad thing happened because of this, but I realised I couldn't anyway, besides suffering from anxiety this long, has made me pretty strong in some areas.

As you can imagine, I've tried a lot of things, exercise seems to work great, although having a few recent injuries hasn't helped.

I'm sure many situations I've been in has lead to my anxiety, and after all I've been through, I've found someone I truly love, she is a star, but I just am not sure if she could be happy with me if the anxiety issue exists.

I don't know what to think, do I have to let her enjoy her life and move on (I don't know how I could do that, it would seem very difficult) as she should want to stick around no matter what I guess?

Life can be hard, but I've learnt we have just got to press along, and maybe one day my hopes because reality, It would just be nice if she could come along with me. I feel like if i can break this anxiety issue once and for all, that I'll finally be happy and on top of the world.

This anxiety has been a curse to me the last few years, maybe one day I'll look back and smile at my progress.

But for now I guess, I simply ask what what you do?

[osryd]

Ask her to help you?

I didn't understand from what you wrote is this girl already your girlfriend or is she some girl you have a crush on? If she's a crush talk to her about it and if she tries to avoid you then forget about her and find a real chick

[ruelle]

You fell in love with someone who is not compatible, lol. Good luck. She should stay home with you if she really loves you.

[culley96]

i feel like i have the same problem and thats why i dont really date much. but honeslty if that person really cared about you and wanted to be with you they would understand and try to help you instead of putting you down. i have a bf right now and i dont really see him as much as he wants but we talk everyday and he seems to have no problem with that he just always says we could do something another time. but sometimes i do suck it up and just go out wherever and just have fun. my anxiety comes in before the event but once im there i feel perfectly fine. i havent told him about it because i dont like talking about stuff like that but for right now things are going good . just explain to her how hard it is for you and how you truely wish it wasnt like that but your trying your best and you really hope she sticks around because you really like her. and just try to be positive the most you can (: