Dad Moved Out-Of-State, Mom Not Really A Resident

[Yerucham]

My issue requires a young child custody situation in the State-Of: Kansas
This entire mess is complicated, I came across some useful info in several of the posts here-but not one of them refer completely to my situation.
I've three kids 8, nearly 7 and 3, my partner chose to proceed to New York last month, he's 3 weeks in arrears together with his child support ($707 a month of which I get $652) after stopping his job, his buddy got him a job performing a job which might quickly create him over $30 an hour, when my child support was established he was making $9.50, he's showing me he's just making $11 an hour I do not think him.
I'm not really a person, I'm a permanentresident, experienced Kansas for 9 years, my paperwork will be organized with INCHES due to the fact they're backlogged, meaning I'm unable to function, unable to obtain my permit to operate a vehicle until my paperwork is available in my fingers are tied.
We've an incident with CSEA by which I was granted my $707 per month but we've no legal divorce agreement, nothing beats that, we've simply been living apart since last Valentines Day.
I've a lot of inquiries that no body appears to be in a position to reply, many of them arising out of this "Nice offer of the dissolution" he is prepared up and sent me.
So listed here is my concerns, sorry to ask so many.
1. He needs my child (8) in the future live with him when she is 12, he appears to be bribing her with the horses his buddy possesses and such things as that, may this occur?
2. If this would go to court, may I be requested within 3 months to obtain a career and a permit despite the fact that the FEDERAL GOVERNMENT INCHES claims I'm prohibited to function?
3. May I get money proof, how much he's producing and how much he's spending money on insurance?
4. Does the total amount a Low-Custodial parent views the child have an impact on child support. He is speaing frankly about getting them an overall total of 29 days a year, causing me with them 336 days a year.
5. He is spending the insurance about the kids and subsequently suggesting that something not protected over $1000 we will half, is this reasonable?
6. He needs a limit placed on his child-support at $800 for 5 years, is that this reasonable?
7. Did he require permission to depart their state?
8. I did not get for alimony, we were married 8 years, I do not feel right going for it, but is it a choice?
*Edit* 9. He claims he'll spend for all travel expenses for visitation and when it visited court they'd offer him every other weekend visitation and I'd need certainly to meet him half-way (Va) is this accurate? he made a decision to abandon their state, why must I be accountable to cover 1 / 2 of the visitation he obviously does not need anyhow.
Iam so sorry I've so many concerns, I wish somebody might help me with at-least a number of them.
Thanks in advance.

[Athmarr]

I'll attempt to answer those I may...
1. He needs my child (8) in the future live with him when she is 12, he appears to be bribing her with the horses his buddy possesses and such things as that, may this occur?
In four decades he'll need certainly to apply for a change of the visitation order. It's not totally possible that the judge could agree simply one of three kids planning to transfer completely with no convincing explanation why it's in one youngster's best interest to alter the order but not another youngster's.
2. If this would go to court, may I be requested within 3 months to obtain a career and a permit despite the fact that the FEDERAL GOVERNMENT INCHES claims I'm prohibited to function?
No - you'll be informed that you've to locate work inside a particular period of time to be officially permitted to work.
3. May I get money proof, how much he's producing and how much he's spending money on insurance?
The court may force him or his company to supply paperwork.
4. Does the total amount a Low-Custodial parent views the child have an impact on child support. He is speaing frankly about getting them an overall total of 29 days a year, causing me with them 336 days a year.
YES - child support is determined on the basis of the proportion of time each parent accounts for the economic support of the kids.
5. He is spending the insurance about the kids and subsequently suggesting that something not protected over $1000 we will half, is this reasonable?
It's reasonable if $1000 is truly the most included in the insurance.
6. He needs a limit placed on his child-support at $800 for 5 years, is that this reasonable?
Definitely not. Child-Support is usually until each child reaches age majority for the reason that condition (usually 18). Because assistance is determined based on revenue in addition to custody period there's no reason to place ANY limitations on the total amount except to state the parents may follow state recommendations.
7. Did he require permission to depart their state?
No. He'd require authorization to get your children in the state - he's liberated to stay where-ever he wants.

[Avrell]

Estimating 525601minutes

sorry - no idea how CSEA operates.



I will contact them again today and discover, perhaps that info might help another person below.




I do not know about that. I have observed the parents discuss 50/50 ALL the expenses not covered by insurance - thus 50% of the out-of-pocket compensated by each.



I'll suggest that I'll spend all co-pays on medications (it is just $5-$10) but something above and beyond that we'll separate. Ambulances, hospital stays, surgery etc.




Well that's too bad for him. He should not have experienced children if he did not want the duty.
He's proper that both of you have an obligation to supply monetary assistance - to some stage. However in your situation you OFFICIALLY can't function - he understood that after he left you alone with 3 children to boost. I am sure the 8 and 7-year old visit college - however, you are offering take care of the small one and at this time that's your "function".
I believe often we fear about being good in the place of stressing about what our children have entitlement to obtain.



You are correct, but to me it appears as though a double-edged blade, I am looking to get along side him and be sensible therefore he does not make my and my children's existence an income nightmare, which he's is completely capable to do, if he gets frustrated he will not contact them for months at the same time, when he did come and pick them up when he lived in Ohio, he'd simply push them in front of the computer or even the Ps and stay stoic since he was down, he'll speak negative about me and my new partner in front of them and let them know that he hates Ron and that Mummy must obtain a work, Therefore I walk out my method to be good and attempt to avoid this from happening.
I suppose I simply need to place my big-girl jeans on and get on with it, Breakup is war, I recognize this, however, regarding my kids in a war that's not their problem sickens me.
I never thanked you for the support, thank you so much, you've no idea how much I relish it. I named an Attorney to get a free consult to determine if he may answer several of those concerns too, quickly as I hear back from him I'll publish what he claims hoping of assisting somebody else.

[Bertold]

May I get money proof, how much he's producing and how much he's spending money on insurance?
The court may force him or his company to supply paperwork.



Therefore it would need to feel the court process? Can there be an opportunity I possibly could get that info in the CSEA?




Does the quantity a Non-Custodial parent sees the child have an impact on child support. He is speaing frankly about getting them an overall total of 29 days a year, causing me with them 336 days a year.
YES - child support is determined on the basis of the proportion of time each parent accounts for the economic support of the kids.



You simply offered me an excellent debate for my spouse viewing our kids more, thank you!




5. He is spending the insurance about the kids and subsequently suggesting that something not protected over $1000 we will half, is this reasonable?
It's reasonable if $1000 is truly the most included in the insurance.



No I meant that whatever the insurance does not address, copays, surgery, ambulance, whatever I pay out-of-pocket, I pay $1000 something after that he'll separate with me, I described to him that I read someplace that $250 a young child was standard and he did not really care to listen to that, I've two extremely healthy kids, but my three-year old has serious allergies including a lifethreatening Peanut allergy.




6. He needs a limit placed on his child-support at $800 for 5 years, is that this reasonable?
Definitely not. Child-Support is usually until each child reaches age majority for the reason that condition (usually 18). Because assistance is determined based on revenue in addition to custody period there's no reason to place ANY limitations on the total amount except to state the parents may follow state recommendations.



Heis adjusting my heartstrings with this specific one, evidently I ruined his life and he simply really wants to complete what he began (purchasing a property etc) before I "abandoned it", having a limit on his child-support allows him to maintain his increases for 5 Decades and get forward, where that leaves me I do not understand, I'm attempting to be great and consider everybody concerned but I also do not want to encounter like a money grubber and I do not want to abandon my kids without a great home since I'm not able to manage it, I believe I'm responsible Since I'm not able to function and he keeps telling me I'm said to be accountable for half their maintenance also.
Sorry for rambling

[Clud]

Ok I found out through Child Support (CSEA) that I can't get his employment information or insurance information, but she also told me that no matter how much he see's the children, even if it's 50% of the time, it won't drop his child support, which confuses me.

[Cuchulain]

Estimating Icarus_Falls

Therefore it would have to go through the court system? Can there be an opportunity I possibly could get that info in the CSEA?



sorry - no idea how CSEA works.





Estimating Icarus_Falls

No I meant that whatever the insurance does not cover, co-pays, surgery, ambulance, whatever I pay out of pocket, I pay $1000 something after that he'll split with me, I described to him that I read someplace that $250 a kid was the norm and he did not really care to hear that,



I do not learn about that. I Have observed the parents discuss 50/50 all the expenses not covered by insurance - thus 50% of the out-of-pocket paid by each.





Estimating Icarus_Falls

having a cap on his child support will permit him to keep his raises for 5 Decades and get ahead,



Well that's also harmful to him. He should not have experienced children if he did not want the duty.
He's appropriate that both of you have an obligation to supply financial assistance - to some level. However In your situation you OFFICIALLY can't function - he understood that after he left you alone with 3 children to boost. I Am sure the 8 and 7-year old visit college - however, you are providing take care of the small one and at this time that's your "function".
I believe often we worry about being good in the place of worrying about what our children have entitlement to receive.

[Marji]

You Are significantly more than welcome. I do not know very well what CSEA intended about % of time-not changing $ of CS possibly. Ideally the attorney could explain better. I Am not sure if English is the second-language or not... but in case - you're eligible to have an interpreter for you if/when this would go to court. Attempt not be discouraged!