by Tancred » Fri May 16, 2014 5:38 am
1. I got my information from the website: www.divorce-and-money.com/retirement.shtml An article by David Twenhafel, a certified financial and divorce planner, states that the tax code provides that money being transferred under a QDRO due to a divorce can go directly to the recipient spouse without being subject to the 10% penalty tax. These funds could then be used just as money in a savings account.2. I meant QDRO - but thanks for cautioning me regarding this.Rd "By the way, why are you concerned if your ex screws himself up? And why are you offering 70k if he still owes child support?" Good questions.The $70K I've offered is money I worked hard for. My ex and I share a beautiful daughter. If the $70K I'm offering can be spared from paying back my ex's other creditors - then there's a good chance that our daughter would benefit from at least part of my hard-earned money. The reason I'm offering the $70K is because I've been trying to negotiate and litigate and do whatever else humanly possible for the past 5+ years to get a divorce from this guy. He's fought me tooth and nail - and found lawyers willing to take his money to keep us in court and prolong the divorce by using every trick in the book.As long as he kept paying his attorneys - they kept finding ways to delay the inevitable. His legal fees are running up to $25K at present. Where'd he come up with this dough? Big time cash advances on his credit cards - then stopped payments - then filed for his Chapter 7 and got away with is; depleting his own retirement account - and a big IOU to his current attorney.So - offering him this $70K was a brainstorm I came up with this past week just before meeting with his current atty for a lengthy settlement conference. Funny thing is: Now that my husband owes his atty $5K and this figure is growing as my husband continues to balk at my most reasonable and generous offers - his own atty is tiring of his antics, and has begun to encourage a settlement.Anyway - the back child support he owes I actually worked into my proposal. He owed $20K in retroactive child support. I was paid back $1,000 from the BK estate. That left $19K. I would have owed him $28K from my retirement account based on standard equitable distribution practices. Deduct income taxes from that $28K and poof! He has paid me back the $19K balance of retroactive child support.This "$70K" windfall I'm proposing certainly isn't to my advantage, financially. If I don't offer it, he would have had to wait 10 years until I retire to collect the Majauskas share of my pension. And if he dies, or I die - guess what? He'd collect no or little pension. Possibly much less than the $70K I'm offering up front. Possible zip. But - to avoid a trial - and the turmoil involved in two spouses spewing out nasty things about each other (his would be mostly lies) in the courtroom, and to avoid the 'crap shoot' that a divorce trial actually is - as it's impossible to predict how the judge would interpret the facts (and lies) - and rule - well - and the aftermath - of a bitter, vindictive ex-husband haunting me the rest of our child's childhood when we would have to interact due to being her co-parents: Well - I would rather shell out $70K now and buy my freedom once and for all.Thanks for asking - and listening.