Do You Have An Adult Son With A Family? Does He Talk To You On The Phone Very Much?

[elton]

Or do you find that it is your daughter-in-law that you spend the most time talking to?My 32-year old son is quite busy with his career and his loved ones, and is not huge on telephone calls. If I have not talked to him for a week or so he makes his "dutiful telephone call" but does not talk extended at all. I guess it is a point with guys. I comprehend and it doesn't hurt me, just wondered if this was the norm.

[Bernardyn]

He would not call for weeks and when I called him, it seemed that I was bothering him, so I just backed off for a while.  He and his wife and my granddaughter are living with her parents right now as they are building a house and all of a sudden, my son has found out that his dear old Mom is not as bad as he thought. LOL  He is calling more often and now when he is on the phone, he actually participates in the conversation. Some folks just do not like telephones, my SIL is like thatk, but I am aware of it so it does not bother me.  If your relationship with your son is good in all other ways, he probably would just rather talk to you in person. I think, though, that most guys let the wife do it because she just takes that role.  Oh I even got the thumbs up this weekend from my DIL....how bout dem apples? LOL  I feel like I have arrived!

[Verrell]

I get the occasional call but he talks to his mom frequently. Of course he lives within sight of us so if he stops calling we can just go and sit on his porch. That?s the good thing about living so close, the bad thing is that with us living so close by part of the calls he makes are calls asking for favors. My wife also talks to our daughter-in-law most every day and does typically have longer conversations with her than with the son. As for me I usually talk with my mother every day and usually several times a day but she is elderly and I worry about her if I don?t hear from her every few hours. Our conversations are generally not very long because I?m not a big phone person myself but what I lack in call length I more than make up for in frequency.

[Izaak]

My telephone habits are completely different from my wife?s.  I tend to call when there is something that needs to be talked about and time is a factor.(things with no particular time element go by E-mail)  However, when I do call, many many non-essential things are talked about, so the phone calls are rather long. My wife, on the other hand, is more of an "occasion caller"  She is more likely to make holiday calls and periodic check-in calls, but the calls to my family are frequently of shorter duration. (we see my parent more frequently than her mom)  It is a factor that in cases of men talking to women, men tend to do less talking.  this is actually a statistical measurement.  I forget the actual figure, but women say a substantially larger number of words per time frame than men do.   When I married, there was a period of adjustment because my normal telephone pattern was if everything was normal, there was no need to call.  My wife, however had the expectation that I would call to say that nothing was wrong.   afterthought: a few years ago, I was out of state, with my parents taking care of my banking while I was gone.  at that point, I would call in every week or more, so things could stay coordinated.

[spere62]

As the DIL I have to say it seems that way to me.  I have to remind him to call on birthdays and holidays and he mumbles a lot about hating to talk on the phone.  Even to me, like if I need him to pick up the kids or something, it is just business not chatting.  He only calls if I dial and hand him a ringing phone.  I think it is just another odd way boys are so different from us.  Your son is lucky you understand.  My MIL isn't so understanding and actually blames me for him not calling more!  And when he talks to his sisters, all I get when I ask him what they said is, "they're fine."  Even after 15 minutes.  Messages don't get passed on well through the boys, lol.   shaelyn's Recommendations Cell Phone Culture: Mobile Technology in Everyday Life Amazon List Price: $29.95 Used from: $29.93 shaelyn 73 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Torn]

Actually our son usually talks to my wife almost every day. I get the occasional call but he talks to his mom frequently. Of course he lives within sight of us so if he stops calling we can just go and sit on his porch. That?s the good thing about living so close, the bad thing is that with us living so close by part of the calls he makes are calls asking for favors. My wife also talks to our daughter-in-law most every day and does typically have longer conversations with her than with the son. As for me I usually talk with my mother every day and usually several times a day but she is elderly and I worry about her if I don?t hear from her every few hours. Our conversations are generally not very long because I?m not a big phone person myself but what I lack in call length I more than make up for in frequency. Sources: my life KingofRandomCrap 73 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[cadwallader]

As an adult son with a family: My telephone habits are completely different from my wife?s.  I tend to call when there is something that needs to be talked about and time is a factor.(things with no particular time element go by E-mail)  However, when I do call, many many non-essential things are talked about, so the phone calls are rather long. My wife, on the other hand, is more of an "occasion caller"  She is more likely to make holiday calls and periodic check-in calls, but the calls to my family are frequently of shorter duration. (we see my parent more frequently than her mom)  It is a factor that in cases of men talking to women, men tend to do less talking.  this is actually a statistical measurement.  I forget the actual figure, but women say a substantially larger number of words per time frame than men do.   When I married, there was a period of adjustment because my normal telephone pattern was if everything was normal, there was no need to call.  My wife, however had the expectation that I would call to say that nothing was wrong.   afterthought: a few years ago, I was out of state, with my parents taking care of my banking while I was gone.  at that point, I would call in every week or more, so things could stay coordinated. TheLightWorks 73 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.