What Small Things Do You Do That Makes Your Marriage Better?

[Stancliff]

I have a great marriage, but think it can even possibly be better than it currently is....what suggestions do you have?

[Terry]

spontaneous. My husband never knows what to expect. From something as simple as leaving a chocolate kiss on his pillow, buying him flowers, sentimental cards. Or I like to wow him by stepping out of the bathroom with a new nightie that he hasn't seen yet. From time to time I set up a romantic evening. A nice dinner on the table when he walks in, candles lit throughout the house, lits dim, music playing, whirlpool tub filled and ready. I like spending time with pampering him cause he is "macho" so it really suprises him when a pampering session has been set into place. During this time I do not talk much, it is his relax time. Have him lay on the floor for a nice back massage too! On a spur of the moment I will convince him to stroll the beach in the evening so we can watch the sun set together. I go out of my way to help him with "chores" in his garage. I have stepped in as his assistant in his lawn mowing business in the summer so we can spend more time together.   I could go on and on. If I think of something different that just happens to pop into my head, I don't hesitate and just do it!

[parnall23]

A dinner with his favorite foods, by candlelight, with music   A backrub when he is tired   Notes of appreciation left on his computer   Really listening when he is talking   Asking his advice...and taking it   Supporting and reassuring him when he has done something 'human.'   He loves it when I read out loud to him, whether it's Reader's Digest jokes or full novels(a bit at a time).    Private signals when we are in public groups.  We not only have 'I love you' signals, but 'help, rescue me from this person' signals.     

[Lorette]

That is easy This is some of the things I do for my wife.  Not all inclusive. 1. When shes had a bad day, I give her a kiss, hug, and tell her it will be OK. 2. When she speaks, the TV turns down, the radio goes off, the computer closes, I turn, and I....listen. 3. Every once in a while I come home with a yellow rose, her favorite color.  No reason.  Just because. This does not include valentines day.  She gets extra on that day. 4. She stays at home, a house wife, but I still help out with the laundry, dishes and chores here and there.  Not because I have to.  Because I want to.  5.  I never forget a birthday, valentines day or anniversary.  You don't have to spend a million dollars you don't have, but even something small is always appreciated. 6.  I Pick a Saturday here and there and for no reason, I let her sleep in.  While she sleeps I get up and do the dishes, straighten the living room, kitchen, etc.  Do the floors.  And let her wake up to a surprise. 7.  In the summer I take her out to the lake for a picnic.  We take the grill and grill out and have several hours of alone time.  Alone time and away time are very special.  I do this several times during the summer. 8.  I check out movies on a regular basis and we spend time alone, watching a movie, with snacks. That alone time thing again. 9. Explore each other, mentally, physically and sexually.  Flirt like you were teen agers again. And while you are kissing, fondeling, and making out, if sex happens let it happen, don't ever force it.  You have to grow old, you don't have to grow up.  But mainly enjoy growing up and old together.     I've only been married 25 years....I'm still learning..... ComputerDoc 72 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[courtland]

First of all, I think the fact that you even THINK about what can make it better, probably explains why you have a great marriage, MomOTG. As for my hubby, he likes it if I notice what he?s wearing, and comment on it. If I give him a little bicep squeeze and comment on his great arms, he feels a bit better all day. Praise his cooking(easy to do - he is a FANTASTIC cook!). Listen to his work day ACTIVELY. It is so easy to just give the little head shake and say uh huh, but if I ask a couple of questions, or bring up something later, he knows I was really paying attention(okay, I wasn?t, but have developed some tricks that indicate that I was when I wasn?t). Alone time, away from the house and work. Sometimes you just have to play! And of course there is The Hummer.(I hope that is discreet enough for Askville, don?t want to get raunchy here.) That would be his number one in a heartbeat thing that makes our marriage great, for him. It makes a bad day good, and a good day better.

[Aarao]

a few ideas from our marriage A dinner with his favorite foods, by candlelight, with music   A backrub when he is tired   Notes of appreciation left on his computer   Really listening when he is talking   Asking his advice...and taking it   Supporting and reassuring him when he has done something 'human.'   He loves it when I read out loud to him, whether it's Reader's Digest jokes or full novels(a bit at a time).    Private signals when we are in public groups.  We not only have 'I love you' signals, but 'help, rescue me from this person' signals.      tuppence 72 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[xever]

The things that I think my hubby most appreciates... First of all, I think the fact that you even THINK about what can make it better, probably explains why you have a great marriage, MomOTG. As for my hubby, he likes it if I notice what he?s wearing, and comment on it. If I give him a little bicep squeeze and comment on his great arms, he feels a bit better all day. Praise his cooking(easy to do - he is a FANTASTIC cook!). Listen to his work day ACTIVELY. It is so easy to just give the little head shake and say uh huh, but if I ask a couple of questions, or bring up something later, he knows I was really paying attention(okay, I wasn?t, but have developed some tricks that indicate that I was when I wasn?t). Alone time, away from the house and work. Sometimes you just have to play! And of course there is The Hummer.(I hope that is discreet enough for Askville, don?t want to get raunchy here.) That would be his number one in a heartbeat thing that makes our marriage great, for him. It makes a bad day good, and a good day better. @Goldie 72 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Pennleah]

This is some of the things I do for my wife.  Not all inclusive. 1. When shes had a bad day, I give her a kiss, hug, and tell her it will be OK. 2. When she speaks, the TV turns down, the radio goes off, the computer closes, I turn, and I....listen. 3. Every once in a while I come home with a yellow rose, her favorite color.  No reason.  Just because. This does not include valentines day.  She gets extra on that day. 4. She stays at home, a house wife, but I still help out with the laundry, dishes and chores here and there.  Not because I have to.  Because I want to.  5.  I never forget a birthday, valentines day or anniversary.  You don't have to spend a million dollars you don't have, but even something small is always appreciated. 6.  I Pick a Saturday here and there and for no reason, I let her sleep in.  While she sleeps I get up and do the dishes, straighten the living room, kitchen, etc.  Do the floors.  And let her wake up to a surprise. 7.  In the summer I take her out to the lake for a picnic.  We take the grill and grill out and have several hours of alone time.  Alone time and away time are very special.  I do this several times during the summer. 8.  I check out movies on a regular basis and we spend time alone, watching a movie, with snacks. That alone time thing again. 9. Explore each other, mentally, physically and sexually.  Flirt like you were teen agers again. And while you are kissing, fondeling, and making out, if sex happens let it happen, don't ever force it.  You have to grow old, you don't have to grow up.  But mainly enjoy growing up and old together.     I've only been married 25 years....I'm still learning.....

[Abir]

Think before speaking. Put one another first. One thing that I have been trying to work on is thinking before I speak. My wife could do the same because it's the heat of the moment that makes things worse. My grandmother always says, 'You won't remember it in 50 years'. Put one another 1st. Children are a huge priority as well as other family members, but it's the couple that must put themselves first in order to keep the marriage alive and well. Go do things! Simple things. Things that can be fun for just the two of you. Camping. A stay over at another city with a nice dinner and breakfast. Theme park for the day, just the two of you. How about a day of shopping for the two of you! Maybe that's not as easy for some husbands, but I do enjoy shopping with my wife. Besides, I get to have a say in what she buys! haha :) therion_6 72 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Sagar]

I always do something spontaneous. My husband never knows what to expect. From something as simple as leaving a chocolate kiss on his pillow, buying him flowers, sentimental cards. Or I like to wow him by stepping out of the bathroom with a new nightie that he hasn't seen yet. From time to time I set up a romantic evening. A nice dinner on the table when he walks in, candles lit throughout the house, lits dim, music playing, whirlpool tub filled and ready. I like spending time with pampering him cause he is "macho" so it really suprises him when a pampering session has been set into place. During this time I do not talk much, it is his relax time. Have him lay on the floor for a nice back massage too! On a spur of the moment I will convince him to stroll the beach in the evening so we can watch the sun set together. I go out of my way to help him with "chores" in his garage. I have stepped in as his assistant in his lawn mowing business in the summer so we can spend more time together.   I could go on and on. If I think of something different that just happens to pop into my head, I don't hesitate and just do it! Sources: personal experience   ragrug_lady's Recommendations Happiness for Two: 75 Secrets for Finding More Joy Together Amazon List Price: $19.95 Used from: $12.05 Average Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5(based on 1 reviews) Aromatherapy and Massage Amazon List Price: $25.00 Master Massage 3-Pack Aromatherapy Oil Amazon List Price: $29.99 Average Customer Rating: 3.0 out of 5(based on 1 reviews) Earthly Body Sun Touched Candle(Set of 3) Amazon List Price: $44.99 Average Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5(based on 3 reviews) ragrug_lady 72 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.