Are all Albanians like this? (Sources: Every Albanian I know did all of i say). Answer in English please :)?

by **chiram97** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 6:17 am

Background: I live in Toronto but I am of Albanian descent (Mom is from Tirana, Dad is from macedonia but Albanian), but Im not proud. I am 16, a guy and out to my parents and some family as gay, its not going so good. Ever since a few years ago, I have not wanted to be a part of my background. I find so many negative characteristics similar to every Albanian I know (ie Immediate and Extended family, past neighbours, my family's friends and in laws) that I feel shame to call myself Albanian. Heres a list:

Ignorance: Every Albanian I know is ignorant. Its unbelievable, they think everything they say is right and if I even have valid proof against their arguments theyll just call me stupid. They still believe in Enver Hoxha's ideas.

Racist: They think Albanians are the only pure race on the planet. They have so many racist stereotypes on every culture but their own, especially their neighbouring countries and black people. And marriage or even dating in a few cases outside the culture is a NO NO.

Sexist: This is a big one. I hate how they treat women, especially girls. I hate how boys are allowed to go out and screw whoever they want but girls are confined to their houses and not even allowed to have feelings for another boy, especially non albanian, without being called a sl*t. I also despise the submission women must have to their husbands who go out all the time and dont give a sh*t about their wives sometimes. (All my uncles have cheated)

Homophobic: I guess this is biased since I'm gay but still, its a factor. I feel that Albanians shun the gay community the most. My mother told me shed rather see me dying. It shows how much love exists in my family.

Other things are criminals (all my family has criminal records), bizarre marriage rituals, Excessive pride,two faced liars and unwillingness to change but I ran out of room. I dont want to hate but I feel its hard not to. Is every Albanian like this? or am I unlucky to have this family?

by **chadburne48** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 6:21 am

Background: I live in Toronto but I am of Albanian descent (Mom is from Tirana, Dad is from macedonia but Albanian), but Im not proud. I am 16, a guy and out to my parents and some family as gay, its not going so good. Ever since a few years ago, I have not wanted to be a part of my background. I find so many negative characteristics similar to every Albanian I know (ie Immediate and Extended family, past neighbours, my family's friends and in laws) that I feel shame to call myself Albanian. Heres a list:

Ignorance: Every Albanian I know is ignorant. Its unbelievable, they think everything they say is right and if I even have valid proof against their arguments theyll just call me stupid. They still believe in Enver Hoxha's ideas.

Racist: They think Albanians are the only pure race on the planet. They have so many racist stereotypes on every culture but their own, especially their neighbouring countries and black people. And marriage or even dating in a few cases outside the culture is a NO NO.

Sexist: This is a big one. I hate how they treat women, especially girls. I hate how boys are allowed to go out and screw whoever they want but girls are confined to their houses and not even allowed to have feelings for another boy, especially non albanian, without being called a sl*t. I also despise the submission women must have to their husbands who go out all the time and dont give a sh*t about their wives sometimes. (All my uncles have cheated)

Homophobic: I guess this is biased since I'm gay but still, its a factor. I feel that Albanians shun the gay community the most. My mother told me shed rather see me dying. It shows how much love exists in my family.

Other things are criminals (all my family has criminal records), bizarre marriage rituals, Excessive pride,two faced liars and unwillingness to change but I ran out of room. I dont want to hate but I feel its hard not to. Is every Albanian like this? or am I unlucky to have this family?

No, listen to me, I'm a real Albanian and the only things I hate are the muslims who betrayed Albania and seek to make us a part of the middle east and destroy our European heritage. If you don't meet that criteria, then I have nothing against you. I wonder how Skanderbeg would feel today if he saw Albania and saw the mosques and turkophiles. Every non-muslim albanian needs to wake up now before it's too late. Btw, I live in Southern California, so I'm not really connected to Albania as much as the ones back in Europe. I'm a civilized Albanian, I have friends from our so called "enemy neighbor countries", but then again, they are our enemies because the muzzy albanians give us a crap reputation. Everywhere an albanian commits a crime, I guarantee you his religion is islam.

Are you a muzzy? maybe that's why your family is like this, behaving exactly how muzzies behave like.

don't listen to hjemonia, one of her answers to a question of mine a few weeks ago was that she kissed and fell in love with a turk, she is a traitor for falling in love with an enemy, i bet she might have turkish in her. BLEH!

as for endri, one of his answers for a question asked a few months ago was that he is 5'6 or 170 cm, thin shoulders, and skinny and he has dark skin and black hair; does that sound like an albanian to you or a central asian turk?

listen to me and READ my answer, all the things to help you are there. i've traced my lineage to albanians and some romanians, so i know my stuff and i am a PURE albanian = not a muzzy, white skin, tall(193 cm or 6'3), broad shoulders, brown hair and eyes.

by **hillocke** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 6:30 am

Tell them that when they moved to Canada it was to be expected that they don't assert their own outdated culture you and blend in with the Canadian culture. They don't like it? Tell them to move back to Albania. Do this when you're ready to move out.

by **gabrielo19** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 6:38 am

Most men from the Balkans seem to be like that.

by **colfre** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 6:42 am

No offense but do you even know the History of Albania? All of those negative aspects have a historical background and all not cause of the Albanians but cause to its "neigbhours".

Judging without knowing every thing or any thing in your case is a form of Ignorance ,like the one your family has towards Gay persons. You know barely anything about Albanian history and customs and yet you dare to generalize and insult an entire ethnicity based on your family. Well i guess it runs through your blood.

And about the marriage rituals, since i care, what do you mean by bizarre? You do realize that all those rituals have a very precise purpose and date back as to at least 2k years ago? But i guess you say that cause of your extreme knowledge on Albanian.

And just for you info, I have relatives of mine, living exactly in Toronto and I'm sorry to say but your family is a f***ed up one and the first one I know to be so f***ed up. Bad luck i guess.

by **starling** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 6:43 am

You should be ashamed of how you represent your family and the country you are from.
Not every Albanian is like this and I'm not racist, homophobic, I do not believe i Enver Hoxha's ideas and I'm not ignorant. And even my friends and family are not.

by **atworth49** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 6:47 am

Ah, whenever I hear the name: Albania, I start singing that Albanian Anthem that Monty Python wrote in the '70s. I don't know any of the people.

You uncles have cheated with who, since the women can't leave the house? NON-Albanians? That leads to an impure race.

At least you're not in Albania anymore. I hear Canadian taxes are horrible. I know you get health benefits and such, but what are the taxes like? I'm in Rochester, right across the lake from you. What did you think about that ferry catastrophe? It was REALLY embarrassing for us.

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