Family in-law problems after death of spouse.?

by **denzell** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 3:01 am

My wife died in may. We were married for 23 yrs with no children. We havent spoken to her family since 2008. For years they always liked me and then turned on me after me and wife (their sister) moved 125 miles away. Her unmarried sisters tried to stick their noses in our business all the time so I gave her a choice, me or them. She was 60 and Im 49. She passed away in May so I never told them about it until a week later after she was buried. They didnt deserve to see her funeral because they tried to get us divorced. They wanted me to like them or lump it. Her sisters think they are in charge of everyone elses show. I didnt want them taking charge at the funeral either. I chose to disown them. Now they put trash and sticks on my side of the grave marker all the time to cover it up. Was I wrong? Are they just being vindictive? Doesnt this shame them and show disrespect for their sister?

by **dalon** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 3:03 am

You should have never told them anything. If you can prove they are desecrating the grave, get a restraining order to keep them away.

by **muireach** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 3:06 am

Sorry dude I did not read past where you wrote "I never told them about it until a week later after she was buried". That was their family member and NO MATTER what you have to say in your question after that to me is meaningless. You may be a fine upstanding citizen but that was really cold, they had every right in the world to join in the grieving process and get a little closure from the funeral services.

by **larenzo** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 3:12 am

As her husband, it sounds like she was perfectly happy with you and not very happy with her family. You have more legal rights in carrying out her final wishes than they do. Given their previous behavior, I can't blame you for not wanting them involved in laying your wife to rest peacefully.
Definitely report the desecration to the cemetery. In the mean time, when you go to visit your wife's grave, take along a trash bag and keep her final resting place as neat as possible. They do sound like very petty and manipulative people.

Advertisments:

Sponsor Links: