How do I find a good family law attorney?

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My ex and I are having issues over visitation. He is currently in Iraq, but when he gets home he wants to visit with our son, which is fine. Here's the catch: he wants him for one week when he gets home, one month in the summer, and EVERY Christmas. I sent him an email telling him that since it has been right at 5 YEARS since he has seen our son, he needs to make a few small weekend trips here so our son can get to know him personally not as a voice on the phone once a month (our son is 6). I told him that these things needed to be eased into, since for all intensive purposes he is a stranger to our son.
Also, when I ask my son if he wants to see his daddy, he says yes, but only if I can go with him or if his daddy comes here; so I know my son is feeling uneasy about this.

I received an email back, saying I was just trying to babysit him and he (my ex) didn't need a babysitter. So, I emailed him again telling him that until he establishes a trusting relationship where our son feels comfortable with him I would NOT let him go for any amount of time.

Let me add he will reside in Mississippi, and I live in Indiana, so its not like if my son is having a hard time I can just go pick him up; it is about a 10 hour drive.

I do not object to my son seeing his daddy. I just think he needs to get to know his daddy in an atmosphere he feels comfortable in before going for a week or more away from home (and a 10 hour drive).

Anywho... so how do I find a good attorney? How do I know if they are a good attorney or so-so?

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Been there, done that sister. this is my advice;

Interview with at least 3 attorneys that practice family law in your area. Write down questions that pertain to your situation and ask them. ask each attorney that, if they were unable to represent you for whatever reason, whom would they recommend? Also, ask them about the law guardians in your area, as your son will need one [you should 'require' one for him]. A law guardian is an attorney appointed by family court to represent your son and his best interest. Remember that he or she is not your attorney, nor your husbands. they will not inform you of a lot of the information that they collect on your sons behalf, so dont let that upset you. You can request a specific law guardian for your son in family court, some judges will grant a request for a specific attorney...mine did. X husband needs to understand that he will have to share ALL holidays. My x and I alternate holidays. I can go on, but I think Ive given the nuts and bolts here. I wish you and your boy all the best!!