IN Laws hate me and no support from my husband...what do I do? My sister in law is my husbands older sister-?

[jordi]

They are English (she married in the UK) They are extremely wealthy- and she has always treated me like I am her hired help/beneathe her etc since day 1.My husband was overseas visiting when his(and her) elderly father fell and broke his hip- I was the only one here to tend to him and their mother with alzheimers(long story). When all this happened- I was forced to cancel my economy trip lose my ticket and pay a fine to cancel my trip to see my family that I hadn't seen in 2 years- I was quite upset about that( I can't afford to travel- let alone throw money away) but what was worse- is that my father in law being 89-went into surgery for his hip and ended up almost dying- when the Hospital was calling at 3 A.M.asking me for the DNR papers- I could not get a hold of anyone- I tried over and over calling my husband and sister in law- Anyway long story short My sister in laws' husband sent me this condescending-evil- scathing email and post on FB -because I had posted (to my family and friends) that I would'nt be taking my trip/ had to cancel/ because of the situation- He said: " You did not do ****! It's not like you wiped their asses and spoon fed them"... among other words- this was the most hurtful- because -hello!?- I was alone with this life/death situation, not MY parents, elderly with yes lots of meds and a harrowing experience- Long story short- When my sister in law finally showed up she shouted at me to "JUST LEAVE, take my little trip!!" -not understanding that after I told her my trip was cancelled- for me it is CANCELLED! They jet set all over the world- weekly- they have a huge flat in Kensington district London-and penthouse in Dubai and a mansion they had built in Italy. She has lectured 'down' to me since I got married- and treat me like S**t -but now it it so bad I have to avoid them altogether. This hurts because I just feel ostrasized- worse than the day I got married- I don't know what to do- I don't want to feel like I have to hide / avoid them all... What did I do wrong if I did?- to be treated this way?? I don't understand why they look down on me so much- I never had money- but I come from a very academic background- my father was highly acclaimed professor- not that this matters- but they have no reason to treat me like I'm trash- even on a superficial level as that..

[tahmelapachme33]

They are English (she married in the UK) They are extremely wealthy- and she has always treated me like I am her hired help/beneathe her etc since day 1.My husband was overseas visiting when his(and her) elderly father fell and broke his hip- I was the only one here to tend to him and their mother with alzheimers(long story). When all this happened- I was forced to cancel my economy trip lose my ticket and pay a fine to cancel my trip to see my family that I hadn't seen in 2 years- I was quite upset about that( I can't afford to travel- let alone throw money away) but what was worse- is that my father in law being 89-went into surgery for his hip and ended up almost dying- when the Hospital was calling at 3 A.M.asking me for the DNR papers- I could not get a hold of anyone- I tried over and over calling my husband and sister in law- Anyway long story short My sister in laws' husband sent me this condescending-evil- scathing email and post on FB -because I had posted (to my family and friends) that I would'nt be taking my trip/ had to cancel/ because of the situation- He said: " You did not do ****! It's not like you wiped their asses and spoon fed them"... among other words- this was the most hurtful- because -hello!?- I was alone with this life/death situation, not MY parents, elderly with yes lots of meds and a harrowing experience- Long story short- When my sister in law finally showed up she shouted at me to "JUST LEAVE, take my little trip!!" -not understanding that after I told her my trip was cancelled- for me it is CANCELLED! They jet set all over the world- weekly- they have a huge flat in Kensington district London-and penthouse in Dubai and a mansion they had built in Italy. She has lectured 'down' to me since I got married- and treat me like S**t -but now it it so bad I have to avoid them altogether. This hurts because I just feel ostrasized- worse than the day I got married- I don't know what to do- I don't want to feel like I have to hide / avoid them all... What did I do wrong if I did?- to be treated this way?? I don't understand why they look down on me so much- I never had money- but I come from a very academic background- my father was highly acclaimed professor- not that this matters- but they have no reason to treat me like I'm trash- even on a superficial level as that..

get a job us men are not here to support you're lazy ***

[ealahweemah72]

Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” And it's true.
You do have choices in life. You could have chosen not to be involved. Your husband and his sister both decided to leave the country when they knew their parents were elderly and infirm. You don't want to be part of their family anyway. And why was your husband 'overseas visiting' without you, his wife? If your husband's family is so wealthy, you could have told hospitals to charge all treatment to your husband's family and gone on your holiday.
It's never a good idea to publish personal things on Facebook, either. It's really peurile. And serves no purpose. You don't have to take the treatment that's meted out to you. Stand up for yourself. Nobody else will, obviously.

[broehain61]

In all this, Where is your husband? In a trip for long? Does he even defend you?
Stop living with them, go with your husband to another house and don't make much connection with them,Take control of Your life.

[jung-hwa75]

Disgusting especially when the parents in law are not your immediate family and your in laws hate you...so next time don't self sacrifice yourself for your husbands family, as it is not appreciated and they really don't care about you and or what you do...been there and done that, from now on look after you and you really have to look at your situation and say where is this marriage going and do we have a future?

[napayshni65]

f**k him getta new younger model.have sum respect for yourself and yes i was in an even worse spot and i made it happen.....alone