My daughter and her family support gay marriage, even though I always taught her that its WRONG?

by **dacy17** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 11:46 am

I am an older man, a loving husband, the father of four beautiful daughters, and ten amazing grandchildren. I have, however, always had difficulty with my third oldest daughter. She's always been the rebel of the family. She did not marry a Catholic man like her sisters did, and she decided to become a nurse instead of going into law as was tradition in our family.

Now, all of this I can live with. But I've recently been finding out that she has NOT been instilling traditional Catholic values on my grandchildren. I discovered this today while I was visiting them. I tried pushing my daughter to take her children to that restaurant Chick-fil-a in support of their firm defense of traditional marriage. That's when she told me that she, her husband, and even my 16 year old granddaughter are for gay marriage. She even said that she has been teaching her 12 and 11 year old sons that homosexuality is not a choice and that the Bible is wrong.

Her mother and I are shocked, and, I'm not going to lie, worried. Now, as a Christian, I love gay people like I love all people. But I absolutely do not think that our next generation should be taught that homosexuality is normal and that it should ever be accepted. That is sick and irresponsible.

Can I please get some advice on what to do? I cannot let my daughter and son-in-law pollute my grandchildren's minds with this disgusting drivel.

(PS I am am currently on my wife's account)

by **ahanu** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 11:51 am

I'm not going to give you advice, but I do have something to say. You do know that the Pope himself said that homosexuality is not wrong. He stated that some people are born that way with no choice. But you have no say in how your daughter raises her children. Have a good day.

by **sampson** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 11:57 am

Okay, you're job as a parent is to raise your child to be able to make it on her own. The firm religion and choice of career for her are not up to you. She is doing a great thing being a nurse! That's a very hard career and it's helping people who need it. If she feels that catholic ways are not right for her children that's HER buisness alone NOT yours. Freedom of religion right? Let her teach her kids they are the next generation. For her to teach them homosexuality is not wrong a sin or whatever you call it is not a problem either. All you are thinking about is religion and how you grew up in your day of age. Why argue with her. It's her choice. I personally think what she's doing is great. Open minded people get further. Not close minded. Open your eyes that's your daughter not your puppet. I'm pretty sure you will disagree because most people do but, nothing you can do. Her choice. Welcome to the "real" world. She sounds like a great mom.

by **clem84** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 12:07 pm

How can u show love for them if u tell them that they are wrong. What they do is nobody's business.

by **torin7** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 12:11 pm

I'm a 13 yr old grl. I c no problem with gay marriage. I think every person has the right and to deny this To them is discrimination. Thats right. That word is not only used 4 racist things. Anyway, my goal is not to change ur mind no matter how strongly i may dissagree. Cause i also believe that we r all entitled to our own opinion.
Anyways, I think u should let ur daughter b entitled to her own opinion. She may raise her kids in certain beliefs that u may not agree with. U just have 2 know that ur beliefs aren't the only ones that ppl consider 'right'. Just trust ur grandkids to make their own decions like ur daughters did. GL! :0)

by **ring** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 12:12 pm

Ok I understand that you are a devoted Catholic and believe strongly that gay marriage is wrong. You have the freedom of speech and free thought. But your daughter and her children do too. People have their own opinions and we must learn to respect each others opinions. I dont think you should be mad at her. she has her own life and is an adult, and she has the right to raise her children that way. I suggest to completely avoid the topic when with her. I'm trying no to take sides and I hope this issue wont put tension on your relationship

by **fiynn** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 12:15 pm

As a Christian, I appreciate all that you have done to try to bring your daughter up as God would have wanted. I also understand your extreme confusion and heartbreak at seeing your daughter choose to live in a different way than she was taught growing up. But you need to accept some truths.

1) Deciding to be a nurse and not a lawyer is not "rebellious." It is your job as a father to support and encourage her in her passions and talents, not to shape her to be like you. As long as you still see this as something she did "wrong" that you "had to learn to live with," there will be a rift between you and your daughter. I suggest you apologize to her for anything you did to discourage her from nursing. Having a "my way is the right way" attitude about everything in life will do nothing but make her less likely to listen to your advice. Especially because this is a career choice, not a religious matter.

2) You stated that you cannot let your daughter pollute your grandchildren's minds. This is not only untrue, this is ridiculous. You CAN, and you MUST. It is her right as a parent to raise her children as she and her husband see fit. You cannot take her children away from her. You cannot go behind her back and encourage them to disrespect or disobey her. You had the right to do as you wished with your children, and you must do the same for her, even if you strongly disagree.

3) Here's what you can also do: pray for you daughter and her kids, and share with them in a respectful manner what you believe and why. Telling them what you believe and reasoning with them is a good thing. Manipulating, arguing, name-calling and controlling are not okay.

by **eilis** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 12:18 pm

As a Christian, I appreciate all that you have done to try to bring your daughter up as God would have wanted. I also understand your extreme confusion and heartbreak at seeing your daughter choose to live in a different way than she was taught growing up. But you need to accept some truths.

1) Deciding to be a nurse and not a lawyer is not "rebellious." It is your job as a father to support and encourage her in her passions and talents, not to shape her to be like you. As long as you still see this as something she did "wrong" that you "had to learn to live with," there will be a rift between you and your daughter. I suggest you apologize to her for anything you did to discourage her from nursing. Having a "my way is the right way" attitude about everything in life will do nothing but make her less likely to listen to your advice. Especially because this is a career choice, not a religious matter.

2) You stated that you cannot let your daughter pollute your grandchildren's minds. This is not only untrue, this is ridiculous. You CAN, and you MUST. It is her right as a parent to raise her children as she and her husband see fit. You cannot take her children away from her. You cannot go behind her back and encourage them to disrespect or disobey her. You had the right to do as you wished with your children, and you must do the same for her, even if you strongly disagree.

3) Here's what you can also do: pray for you daughter and her kids, and share with them in a respectful manner what you believe and why. Telling them what you believe and reasoning with them is a good thing. Manipulating, arguing, name-calling and controlling are not okay.

first of all,you are way out of line,your daughter can do whatever she wants,shes a adult.2nd,homosexuality is nothing sinister,its only one person liking another person whom happens to be the same gender.im a Christan to,(nearly 3 billion others are to)and i know how you fell,and did you know the pope also (somewhat) supports gay marriage.and it is not sick and irresponsible,people have freedom of speech and the right to do what they want to do,and that includes being gay.and you trying to force your daughter to go to chick-fil-a to show YOUR support is messed up.and there is nothing to be worried about,its just life.and gay people enjoy every second of it being with the person they love(of the same gender obviously.) now,what i want you to do is to apologize to your daughter and say that she is a adult and can make her own decisions.

by **dureau** » Thu Aug 02, 2012 12:26 pm

ok i'm Catholic, andi find nothing wrong with gay marriage,remember if god didn't want people to be gay he wouldn't make em that way. And your daughter should be able to pick her ow careere. and she can marry someone non-catholic if she wants. people have their own belifs. Let her teach her kids what she wants to tech them. plz stop over reacting about this.

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