My future in-laws wants me to wear a wedding dress but I don't want to?

by **ayize** » Sun Mar 18, 2012 4:01 am

My future parents-in-law will allow me to have a ceremony with their only son on the sole condition that I wear a wedding dress. I'm certain they are doing this as a last ditch effort to get rid of me. I mean, I would be one of the first to admit I'm quite effeminate looking, to the point that people sometimes mistake me for a girl. But god dammit I'm still a man and I'm not a cross dresser. I always imagined my ceremony being an equal thing, not an emulation of the heterosexual man & wife ideal (no offense).

I would be assertive and say 'no' but unfortunately my fiance comes from an influential family who can make my life a living hell if I don't show subservience to my future husband. Yes, I realize his family are a bunch of insane traditionalists. And apparently its not just any wedding dress, its one from the 1800's, a family heirloom. Like I care! A dress is still a dress is still a dress.

I told my fiance, and he said I didn't have to wear it if I didn't want to. But he looked a bit sad when I said I didn't want to wear the flimsy thing, so now I feel very guilty about it. I swear his parents must have poisoned his mind. Perhaps I should just show leniency, I mean its only one day. I should think of it as a trial. A very awkward, strange and highly embarrassing little trial. After all, on the end of it I'll have the man I love :)

What do you think?

by **talbot** » Sun Mar 18, 2012 4:05 am

No, don't do it. If they're going to bully you into this, what else are they going to bully you into once you're married? If they want a wedding dress at YOUR ceremony, let HIM wear it. It's YOUR wedding. You wear what YOU want.

by **nicolas** » Sun Mar 18, 2012 4:10 am

I personally think that's a rude and riduculous thing for the future in-laws to request. It annoys me how we work our asses off to legalise gay marriage and then people like THAT have to ruin it for the people it was made for.

Tell them to shove it up their bums because to be honest, you shouldn't have to comply to something that will (no offence) make you a laughing stock at your own wedding! They wouldn't ask a woman to wear a suit, so why a man who doesn't cross dress to wear a dress! I believe it would be a vision AGAINST equality if you do, unlike what you wish for. You have your ceremony exactly how you want it and screw the in-laws that want to ridicule someone who's making their son happy.

Don't let your future husband guilt you into it either.

Best of luck! x

by **ahanu** » Sun Mar 18, 2012 4:18 am

I think that you've confused this with a fetishist site.

by **baigh75** » Sun Mar 18, 2012 4:30 am

I think that you've confused this with a fetishist site.

Go on a cruise, and get married while your on the ship and tell everyone when you get back home your are married, end of problem re the dress, they will get over it, it's your life not the inlaws :) good luck !

by **kienan** » Sun Mar 18, 2012 4:34 am

Dont do it. It isnt about the wedding but rather the rest of your life you will be under their control. Your fiance is still too involved with them

by **mace** » Sun Mar 18, 2012 4:37 am

I think your fiance needs to grow some balls and tell his family that this is your life together, not theirs. If they want to be a part of your future then they need to do some compromising as well. In this situation, you have the upper hand, not them.

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