My mother in law i just cant stand her and i know is bad because shes my husbands mother?

[curadhan74]

like today my husband told me she text him and told him if he is giving me money to save and he said yes and she said "well be careful" i'm just mad because why would she say that is not like i'm wasting his money.. shes just rude she thinks she is better then anyone not even her whole family talks to her and is all due to her attitude. even the day of our marriage she came in a bad mood i don't know what to do sometimes i just don't want to talk to her and go over her house but i cant do that to my husband

[yago]

The age old problem of annoying mother in laws. Mothers are used to having the control over their childrens lives and they are not ones to relinquish it easily. I just grin and bear it when it comes to my mother in law. If she crosses a line like trying to tell my kids to do the opposite of what I told them or convinces my husband to do something that is detrimental to our livelihood or relationship, then I don't care what my husband thinks and I WILL say something,

[hob97]

Typical over bearing "no woman is good enough for my son" mother. Ignore her behaviour, don't give her the satisfaction of a reaction. You know you, you know your husband and make sure he always defends you against her. She's a silly woman and her attitude stinks! Learn from this and don't treat your sons future gf like that if you have a son. Good luck and I know this might sound mean but she won't be here forever to say those negative things! A mother in law should be supportive and loving, not negative, spiteful and nasty! x

[alburt]

Apparently, your mother in law has trust issues with you, and likely any wife his son would take on. Perhaps she was saving money for her husband and kept some aside in a nest egg in case she had to make a quick escape? You never know what people are thinking and when they say strange things it's not about you it's about THEM.

It's ok if she comes off as a person who thinks she's better than anyone, if she's rude and has an attitude or is in a bad mood. Again, she is insecure and has issues... it's about HER.

Don't let her behavior affect you. Once you can accept her for the insecure, unhappy person she is, you will stop dwelling on this and let it go. Try it.

By the way, you have a choice, get along with her as best you can, or not speak to her. Either way you're not doing anything to your husband, you're making a personal choice. It's probably best to let her be who she is, and not react to her behaviors.