My son has supported his girlfriend for 15 months. This relationship produced a baby girl. His girlfriend has?

by **chason62** » Sun Jun 03, 2012 2:36 pm

My son has supported his girlfriend for 15 months. This relationship produced a baby girl. His girlfriend has not worked he has worked 12 to 15 hour NIGHTS and transported her and sat by her side at every Obgyn appt. Obtained vacation days for the delivery stayed at her bedside her stay in the hospital. Brought her and his daughter home to a complete set up for a baby that he afforded with his hard earned money. Baby bed, baby furniture, clothes, diapers EVERYTHING. His girfriend mother and father abandoned her over the relationship with my son. My son pushed her to finish up highschool, she started Dental assist school that my son paid 1100.00 for her admittance tuition. She currently has 3 months til its completion. In the small hours of his being home, which he planned around her school, he kept the baby, while trying to get some rest. She started talking to her mom when my son picked up additional hours to support her. Last Thursday he left for work at 9 pm. He come home Friday morning and she (his girlfriend) and her family had taken everything he had bought for the baby AND the baby. He has not seen his baby since..WHAT CAN WE DO?

Optional Information: State/Country relating to question: MissouriAlready Tried: WHAT CAN WE DO? HE TRIED TO GO TO WHERE THE GIRL IS AT LIVING WITH FAMILY. THEY ARE MAKING FALSE ALLIGATIONS ABOUT HIM WALKING ON THE PROPERTY(CRIMINAL TRESSPASS) SHE TOLD US HER MOTHER ABUSED HER, (WE BELIEVED) THEN SHE SAID (I ABUSED HER) I KNEW THEN SHE HAD PROBLEMS. NOW SHE IS TELLING (HAS MADE OUT A POLICE REPORT) MY SON HAS ABUSED HER. I AM A CAREER NURSE 30 YEARS (BELIEVE ME I AM NOT GOING TO BREAK ANY LAW THAT MIGHT AFFECT MY CAREER) SHE IS ANGELIC LOOKING AND BELIEVABLE(IDID)SO WHAT NO

by **aviya** » Sun Jun 03, 2012 2:42 pm

Be thrilled that the lunatic is out of your lives, and help your son work past his co-dependency

by **arber47** » Sun Jun 03, 2012 2:49 pm

All of the money he spent is gone for good, because he spent it out of the goodness of his heart on the person he loved, and for the benefit of his own baby. There was no agreement for her to pay him back, and he would have no use for a fully equipped nursery, so I see no point in a civil suit.

Unless she and her family can be found and reasoned with, he will have to petition family court for either shared custody, or visitation.

by **rumford** » Sun Jun 03, 2012 2:55 pm

Do nothing.

First, there's nothing you can do. You can't get any of the money back. You can't change what is, and you can't change what has happened. If you or your son is charged with domestic violence, then you'll want a lawyer. At some point you'll want to hire a lawyer to get visitation.

For now, do nothing. Ok, the child will go a few months without seeing her dad. She'll live. But by doing nothing you allow all the excitement and all the drama to calm down. That's what this girl is after is drama. That's why you move out in secret. She just wants to cause drama. If you go and hire a lawyer and get everything going, your just giving her what she wants.

Allow things to calm down. Then your son can get visitations. As for the money, that's gone. You can't get that back. As a man you either learn to live with women, or live without them. Consider it a lesson. Next time your son will know better then to be giving lots of money and having a baby with a girl.

by **crosbey** » Sun Jun 03, 2012 2:59 pm

Nothing you can do except teach your son to use condoms or, if he chooses to keep having unprotected sex, to marry the girl. All he can do is file a paternity claim. YOU have no standing.

by **anglesey34** » Sun Jun 03, 2012 3:03 pm

Sue them back. Fight for your Grandchild

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