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[hurst]

My husband's law firm is sending him to another state. We are looking for a new house to buy. I'm wondering if I should even sign on the mortgage? My reasons are below:

1. I have no knowledge of our debts and assets.
2. I have no control over any of the finances.
3. I have no voice (no say) in our personal/family finances.

I really feel uncomfortable being on a mortgage when I'll never know what's going on with it, nor any of our other finances.

[lundie]

If you are not going to insist on understanding your marital assets, than I'd say the answer is no.

[jabin20]

You sound just like me and I'm going on 15 years of this! Yes you should sign on the mortgage as long as there is no pre-nup involved. Why not make sure you are getting half of your rightfully deserved assets right? It could be worse if he didn't even put you on the mortgage right? Start having your bank statements mailed to you. There are ways for you to start finding out what's going on. I also keep stashes of money that I do not let my husband know I have. You should be doing the same.

[kendon19]

Nope.
If you don't know what you are signing and how it impacts you in every way you should never sign it.
It is NOT his place to try to take over your personal power financially.
As well, how fukcing insulting. You are an adult.

[erwin]

Forget about worrying over a mortgage. Why are you being kept in the dark about your finances?

You need to get involved NOW.

If you purchase a home and only his name is on it, should something go wrong with your marriage, he'll be able to send you packing. Even though you're entitled to half of it's value, that could take some time. So if you plan on staying in your marriage, you better find what he's doing. Anything acquired during a marriage is 50/50. You could end up losing everything if you don't get involved. It's your money, too.

[kyledyr]

1. You're an idiot if you have no knowledge of your marital debt or assets.
2. You're a doormat for not taking control of your own finances.
3. You're a moron for not making your voice heard.

Your husband, THE LAWYER, is keeping you under his thumb by keeping you in the dark. If you have any self-esteem at all, you'll get off your @ss and start taking responsibility for your own financial affairs. Educate yourself, for cripe's sake..

[hackett]

Signing that mortgage is the least of your problems. You are a sitting duck for disaster. What do you think is going to happen to you should he walk out on you.How are you going to afford an attorney and you will need a good one.how will you fight to keep your children? Men like him will not let you have your children with out a fight. How will you support your self. You need to get a job and start putting that money aside.