Why Indian men themselves don't wear traditional dhoti & expect women to wear saree?

[hyun-su]

Why India is a hotpot of sexism and misogyny. In India, women, especially a married women in her marital home is not allowed to wear jeans or any other western outfit which are not even exposive and obnoxious, which are decent, for eg: t-shirt or cotton kurti with sleevs and jeans or long skirts covering legs and t-shirts with sleevs, but men and elders of his family are conditioned that ideal wife or daughter-in-law is the one who compulosry wear saree & cover the head with saree pallu, and if in some matrimonial homes, women are allowed to keep head open and it is optional to cover head and wear saree as she wants or sometimes she is allowed to wear salwar suit or night gown, even in that in-laws take self pride and say that look how great and broad minded we are, we allow our daughter in law to wear night gown, .... WOAH! As if terrorist don't kill the civilian, just injure him and take pride, atleast we didn't kill him, look how nice we are

But question is, who are this in-laws and husband to decide what a daughter-in-law/wife should wear and what she shouldn't wear, maybe they have a mentality that today if we allow her to dress as she wants then tomarrow she may demand more, for eg: Ask to keep her girl-child? Education and a right to work?‘ etc.

Also, they want women to be in traditional attire, but they themselves are wearing western outfit, why do men have to wear shirt and pants then, why not like Gandhiji adopt charkha, why not they wear traditional dhoti, in earlier times, when women were wearing traditional saree, then even men were wearing traditional dhoti kurta and dressing Gandhiji's way, but nowadays in some regressive hypocrite family, they put imposition on women, but they themselves has adopted western lifestyle

[starling]

Economy & convenience.

[garbhach65]

NO MATTER WHERE YOU GO WOMEN WILL ALWAYS BE MORE STYLISH AND MORE PLEASING TO THE EYE

[spengler]

thumbs up to your question.... we ourselves won't want our dad, bro or our man to put on "dhoti" so may be thats the reason ;) as you know saree makes us look hot but dhoti is simply yuck lol

[weiford]

Boohoo how sexist; This is 'oppression' of the highest order! My God! Those women are SLAVES! I bet they pick cotton during the day too.

Well...to be honest, this is how it was before feminism showed up. Must every country in the world convert now? Feminism is a religion as well it seems.

Let the women there deal with the 'problem'. If they truly feel oppressed they don't need propaganda to realise it.

[sebastiano]

Oh now I remember you, my bad your question was only a little offensive looking back on it, the one about female only subways.

I have never heard of sexism from India. I know their gods incorporate female and male deities, so I don't see why their culture wouldn't respect women.

That does sound like it would be annoying by the way, I'm sorry to hear of your burden. I also bet the men of your country share a similar double standard somewhere though.

[starling]

John Locke and Adam Smith wrote on issues concerning individuality and its connection to happiness.

Serving the family will not provide you with happiness. Maximizing your individuality on the other hand will. That is to say: doing the activities that make you who you are inside. That is not to say: doing what other people believe is expected of you.

There is a reason why countries such as the United States and Great Britain have flourished. Tradition may be denied and we citizens retain the right to progression.

In psychology there is something called unconditinal positive regard (love no matter what choices you make) in order for them to function as a true family to you, they most posses unconditional positive regard.

Ignore your family and do what makes you you. If they do not accept they do not really love you. Instead, they may love the fake image they built up of you.

[emmanuil54]

Indian men are required to do duties particularly in Urban zone which requires
dealing with machines, automobiles, construction machinery,electrical goods ,computers etc.which are better handled by person wearing shirt and pants.

On the other hand in general women are required not to deal with heavy or dangerous machinery.
They can easily work on computers, household machines,medical equipment in Saree or other indian dresses.Also after marriage they are likely to put on weight which a Saree san hide comfortably.
And they can still look beautiful.. as a girl or married women with unlimited colours.

[burt]

It is very simple, women have respect to our tradion and men have least, they are style seekers and feel as if wearing a dhothi is a matter of shame or a mark of uneducated or a class below .