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[jarl]

hey guys! just wanted some advice because my fiances cousin has a daughter that is almost 2 years old and hes not even with the mother and after he found out me and his cousin were havin a baby he goes and has sex with the babys mother and there not even together! 2 months later we find out shes pregnant and now we just found out we are having a boy, JUST LIKE ME! so my problem is this cousin has always like competed with my fiance like oh mines better and so i know hes gonna do the same with our kids.:/ i dont want my kid to go through that. i cant keep him from seeing our son either because my mother in law lives in the same house they do!
what should i stay when both of our babies here and to see if he does start the comments!!!!

[curran]

Just refuse to play the game.....when she says her boy does this ......just say oh nice! Dont play .....After a bit she will figure out you don't like the "comparisons"!

[barnett]

Hi Nina been in a situation like this not with family but with friends. I always thought it best to ignore comparison comments and not get sucked in to the game, this made them stop as I wasnt biting back.
If the comments are made in front of the children then laugh at them about it they will make themselves look silly so dont worry and as the children get older they will know who is right and who is wrong especially if you keep calm.

[osbourne]

Ive had this EXACT same issue.
For example if I would say, "My daughter Maya got 2nd at her dance competition! We are so proud of her!" My friend would say, "That reminds me of the time Sydney got 1st!! We were SO proud of her!"

It was very frustrating but she wants you to play her little game, just don't. Reply with "Thats great!" Or "Wow!" Be the bigger person.

Good luck!

[delton]

It takes two to compete. Ignore it, do not compete. Thus, there is no competition.