An Ex-Girlfriend got me arrested for "hitting" her! She's lying! What should I do? I'm scared?

by **plys** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 10:07 pm

3 days ago I was arrested by the police on charges of "Criminal Domestic Violence and 3rd Degree Assault and Battery".

I was wrongly arrested and I do NOT have a criminal record. I still cooperated with the officers and did not resist arrest of anything of the sort. I figured that would just make things worse.

Anyway what happened was that they had an arrest warrant that practically stated that my ex-girlfriend, lets just call her "Miranda" (I don't want to use real names on here), said that the day previous to my arrest, I went over to her home and during an argument I punches her in the face and kicked her several times, and that I also threatened her.

I don't know how but the police officers said that she had a black eye and bruises in her stomach, they even showed me pictures before they arrested me. I didn't understand how. I even showed them my knuckles to try to prove that I hadn't hit anyone recently but it didn't matter to them.

Anyway, I spent 2 days in the county jail before I got bailed out, the bail by the way was 5 thousand dollars. It was humiliating, they made me put on an orange jumpsuit and stuck me in a dormitory filled with a lot of delinquents.

So and I'm being completely honest here. She's lying, I've never hit her and I'd never hit a woman.

She's furious at me because I cheated on her and then when she tried to patch things up I broke up with her and told her not to call me again. I just thought she was too clingy and possessive. But the night that the alleged assault happened, she had called me and asked me to pick up some things that I left at her home, and I went, I barely talked to her and just got my things, but I was over there. Now I'm starting to think she planned it, but I don't know. She must have hit herself or something, to get back at me, or to get me to go back with her or something.

Anyway, what is your advice? This has been horrible for me, I've always respected the law and being in jail and charged with those crimes has been horrific for me, and I haven't handled it well, I've just been drinking since I was released from jail and I'm really depressed. I have a meeting with a lawyer in 2 days but I just wanted to get some opinions beforehand. What can I do here? Could I sue her? I'm pretty sure her lies have to be a felony! On the other hand, she has no proof that I supposedly "hit" her apart from her "injuries" and her story. And on my phone records I can show that before this she kept calling me and calling me a total of about 50 times harrassing me.

The 2 charges are serious misdemeanors and I'm facing up to 30 days in jail for the 3rd degree assault charges, and 90 days in jail for the criminal domestic violence charge.

Please give me advice.

by **drystan** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 10:08 pm

I would get a lawyer, and then sue her for pressing false charges.

by **scirwode** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 10:18 pm

I would get a lawyer, and then sue her for pressing false charges.

Stop drinking immediately, and make sure you tell your lawyer the exact truth, in the right order.

We aren't lawyers, and even if we were, we're not YOUR lawyer, and don't have all the facts.

by **sylvester37** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 10:27 pm

Okay so where were you when she 'said' you hit her. If you were with someone she has no evidence that u did it.

by **sayre** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 10:29 pm

Okay so where were you when she 'said' you hit her. If you were with someone she has no evidence that u did it.

Go to a lie dector place and vulentarily get one done supply it to the court they may may not... but they will know if you went to that length she is lying. Than I would get someone to kick her butt.... produce people who know her as a liar fight fire with fire if all else fails... produce someone who can say they were friends with her... she'll deny this of coruse... and tell the judge she has done this before to men who didn't want to stay with her after sex... look in this world if honesty fails you than you have to fight fire with fire the bible says this... so only after you go the honest route should you have to do this... and I don't like lying but I have seen the destruction a woman can cause a man by lying. Fire with fire. meet her on your level.

by **zackary42** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 10:43 pm

well if your telling the truth then you have to tell the court and your solicitor that you had cheated on her once before and you broke it off shortly afterwards because you did not feel it would be fair on her to be with someone like yourself, (it may not be the truth but it might be better than saying she was clingy.) and then she called you to pick up your things which you did, you went over to her house picked up your things without even looking at her, or speaking to her. tell them that she had called you on numerous occasions hurrasing you and you just ignored it, if you can find any history of lying in her family then you can use that. i seriously hope you do well in your trial!

by **ingel** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 10:46 pm

Troll

by **abelard29** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 11:01 pm

Troll

Some people go to great lengths for vengeance. Lets hope you have a good lawyer and let him handle it. Somehow the truth reveals itself. .

And on my phone records I can show that before this she kept calling me and calling me a total of about 50 times harrassing me.
shows intent. and she did set you up the night that the alleged assault happened, she had called me and asked me to pick up some things that I left at her home, and I went, After all those calls you didn't smell a rat and bring someone with you. Next time stop, look and listen and USE your head.I was a Military Police Investigator and domestic calls are the worse. the things people do to each other. Bluebell is right drinking isn't the answer and they may even use it against you. happened to me.

Usually it's the guy that comes back to trash the female after the breakup.

by **barend31** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 11:07 pm

Ok, first, stop drinking. Next, tell the lawyer your side of the story as fully and as truthfully as possible, as by telling the truth your chance of tripping up or answering questions incorrectly is dramatically reduced, even if you are nervous.
Lastly, provide as much evidence as you possibly can to strengthen your case - phone records, texts, lie detector results - anything that you think is relevant, your lawyer should be consulted if you are unsure about what to supply.

by **mace** » Wed Jun 06, 2012 11:14 pm

Go to your phone company, get a print out of your cell phone record.
Go to the court house, get a copy of your police report docket sheet.
Hire an attorney, sue for defamation of character, get a PFA, and press harrassment charges. Most likely the judge will drop your charges and her charges and grant two PFA's.

Also, write the judge. It never hurts.

Or you could try to pretend you want to get back together with her, she'll drop the charges and it will be all good.

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