If the spouse of the deceased wants to ensure that a person (whom the deceased disliked intensely, or maybe a former lover) does not attend a funeral is it possible to do so? I've seen death notices in newspapers stating "Immediate family only" but that would exclude all other friends, neighbours, fellow church members etc. from attending?
Is it easier to do this if there is no church service and just a cremation or a burial? Can a list be given stating who can attend (or maybe who must be turned away)?
No - I'm not planning a funeral right now but something I overheard recently got me thinking and I just wondered how it works when someone is in this position. It probably happens more often than we realise. It must be traumatic for a widow or widower to see someone (who has caused havoc in their life) attending the funeral of their spouse.
I've already asked this in Law and Ethics but thought that some S.C.s might have been in this position and know the answer.

