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[brenn15]

My parents have been divorced since I was around 5 years old. As far as I know, my father became verbally abusive towards my mother, perhaps hit her. Classic abusive cycle of treat you like **** then oh I'm sorry then treat you like **** again. When I was younger I remember my father smacking me and choking me. I remember him doing the same cycle of being an asshole than acting like he can just apologize for it. I stay away from him as much as I can, but I get cases of bad luck and end up falling back on my father as a last resort. Now that I am old enough to defend myself, the arguments get bad. A few years ago he said I could live with him for free. I didn't want to, but he kept harassing me and my rent was being raised so I moved in with him. Of course he turned around and wanted me to pay all this stuff. After a year one of our arguments got so heated I ended up calling the police after he hit me, almost broke my arm, tried to throw me down the stairs and choked me leaving nail gashes around my neck. I had to hit him in the head with a phone just to get him off me. Because my family would take his side over mine, I did not press charges. I moved out that night because I luckily had a place to go with a friend who had a truck. I did not speak to my father for a year. After my friend got engaged I moved in with someone through Craig's List, had a falling out with her and my boyfriend of the time offered for me to live with him. I hadn't known him long, but didn't have options. That blew up big drama a couple months later and my dad offered for me to live at his place again. It was agreed that I would pay the Xcel bill as rent. My things that got left from the last time I lived here were broken and tossed in a pile in the closet. I ended up dating a new guy a couple months later and about six months after that he was having some trouble of his own so I asked my dad if it was okay for my boyfriend's daughter to stay here. (My boyfriend was in between jobs and having trouble getting people to watch her so he could work.) I live in the basement which is finished, two bedrooms and a bathroom. I was already using the second room for storage so having the kid here wasn't any extra inconvenience. My boyfriend is on an oil rig so he is only here five to seven days every other week. He essentially lives with me also though he barely has anything here and as I said is only here about ten days out of the month. My boyfriend got custody of his son in January so now both children stay in the spare room. My father never asked for anything extra for them staying here. They don't cause any trouble and just take up the room I was using anyway. My father continues to be the same old asshole, even saying things in front of the children including cursing, slander and other put downs. He is completely inappropriate, throwing fits like a child, throwing things, blasting the TV, etc. In the past year he has also hit me and pushed me down the stairs on a few occasions as well as breaking things. He is also abusive towards my pets and his own. Of course I would move if I had the means so obviously I do not. I don't have a car and had to quit my job twice because of the drama with my father. My boyfriend pays all my bills including the Xcel/rent, as well as groceries and anything else I need in exchange for me watching the kids. The rest of his money goes towards his own bills including a lawyer for his custody battle. His custody of the kids is strongly based on keeping his daughter in the same school because she has an IEP. Even if we found another place in the neighborhood, we cannot afford (in many ways) to move until custody is permanently decided.
Now that the background is out of the way, here's my question: Could my father really call the police on me, file charges, or evict me/us? I pay the agreed "rent" and he is abusive, plus there are two children living with me. It doesn't seem fair, but the law isn't always fair.

[colfre]

Press charge

[zadok]

Your partner is now working and to show he is a fit father his child will need to be in a stable environment. You are putting you and your partners wellbeing before the children.

Of course you can find somewhere else, your partner is employed and earning money he needs to find a place for him and his daughter and yourself. Stop putting the blame on dad when you knew he was a violent and horrible man to start with you should not have even considered living with him with children.

You need to grow up and ring a few welfare places and ask for emergency accomodation. Find a removal storage facility to pack your stuff and move, stop paying your fathers bills and start using the money to get out.

It seems you want to whinge about your situation and get attention but have done little to improve your lot in life.
Your partner would have to have a place to stay if you weren't in his life, so he needs to man up also. If he is keeping his daughter for selfish reasons, that is his choice. If the mother is not abusive and is a normal mother, than shared care would be best for child but I understand if mother is not fit why he would fight, but I am sure Child protection services could help him with their evidence.

You are in an abusive relationship you are letting your children be abused even by watching you are putting your feelings and fear before the care and welfare of your children. I get angry at women in abusive relationships who put their fear above their childrens. grow a backbone and save your life and your kids. Get out

[modraed]

Yes of course he can.

you are a grown woman, responsible for yourself and your children. You have no right to live in his house without his consent.

What is not fair is you being in his house, giving him a bad time. Buy your own house.

[gervaso81]

No go yell at him man.:-)(-.(

[charlot22]

As to whether he can throw you out or press charges, speak to a lawyer.

But my advise is to get out of there as quick as you can before he hurts one of the kids. Your bf will lose custody for sure if you, knowing your father is an abuser, allow the child anywhere near him.

[matchitisiw]

first things first get out of ur fathers house. ask someone to take care of the kids for a while if u cant ask ur bf if they can stay at there mothers for a while that may seem hard but u didnt tell us about anything his ex wife has done or anything bad about her. if u find someone to take care of the kids find a job and work until u and ur bf have enough for a apartment. when u have the apartment take the kids back take care of them while ur bf has a job.

U SHOULD CALL THE COPS ON UR FATHER IF HE ASSAULTS YOU DONT JUST LET IT DRIFT AWAY CALL 911 when hes done with you do it secretly wait for the cops to come and when they come tell them everything that he has done to u.

i cant type the rest of the info because it is to much to type just continue from what happens there ok make the right decisions ur father should be in jail