Family law child support?

[pannoowau]

Hello I am a Florida resident I was married for about 4 yrs and supported my exwife as she obtained her masters degree as well as her PHD, during that time my younger and only brother was killed in a motorcycle accident, I went into deppression and she felt as if I nolonger loved her. She then wanted a divorce, I opted against it and we went to counceling she still wantted the divorce. after we divorved she moved acrossed town and made it really hard for me to se my son on an equal bassis even though we had shared custody, she then took me to court for support, I always gave her support every month it wasnt alway exactly what she asked for but I always did my best. the court awarded her several hundred dollars more then what we originally agreed on and I was ordered to maitain full benifits, We have one child together, her sallary is close to the same as mine, we have him right now 70/30 I have him on the weekends while she through the week, note that right after the support became effective she bought a house and I recently just learned she has been taking skydiving lessons and is going for a pilots license. also since the support went active I had to break my lease and move into my fathers house because now half of my income is gone, all I want to do is move closer so I can see my son on a equal basis and end her living high off the hog on my behalf so we can both just focuss on our son, if we have him on an equal basis and we make close to the same in income, do I have any legal course of action I can take to stop this hardship that im going through.

[dasco]

Well if the courts have already awarded her with majority custody it will be hard for you to get split custody 50/50. If the courts gave her more money than you both had agreed on it is because she let them do it. If she was really ok with the amount you two agreed on then all she had to do was tell them that you have both settled on an amount and she does not want any more than that. But of course she did not do that because she wanted as much as she could get. And that is typical for a woman to do. As for her spending the money on things other than just your kid, there is nothing you can do about it. The courts do not care what she spends the money on. Yes you support is supposed to be for your kid. That includes food, clothes, when she uses the water or electric or anything the kid does that cost money. But like i said before the courts only care if you are paying the support, they do not care what she spends it on. Also the courts do not care if you both make the same amount of money. As long as she has majority custody she will most likely continue to get the 70/30 split. Just pray that she does not lose her job. Because if her income decreases it will actually make you have to give her more support. If she has no job they will say she gets minimum wage thus making you pay more. Yes its dumb and unfair but that is how is works. They only way to get split custody at this point is if she agrees to it. And yes you would have to go back to court and have her say that that is what she wants and she no longer wants child support. Which I doubt she will do because I'm sure she loves the money she gets from you. Also even if you begin to have you kid the same amount of time and she does you still have to pay support until you go to court and have things on record that you now have split custody.

I know all of this is a bit confusing but its all true. When is comes to custody of a kid the women always have the upper hand. Unless you can prove she is an unfit mother. And pretty much the only way to do that is to prove she does drugs in front of the kid or has sex in front of the kid.

Sorry man but things aren't gonna get better. I have been dealing with this stuff for way to long and it always seems like when ever I start to get ahead in live my ex is always there to pull me down. Usually wanting more money and taking me back to court for it. For some reason the courts always side with the mother and could care less how good of a dad you are.