Getting a divorce and other parent moving overseas?

[torran]

I am not using a lawyer ( cant afford one ) so my friend ( 3 rd yr law student is helping me to do this divorce on my own ) We have a 7yr old daughter together. He signed a paper letting me live anywhere in the USA I wanted to, as long as he can be active in her life. He wants to move back to Holland to be with his family. Does the Netherlands honor a child support garnish from the USA? I honestly dont want my daughter going to Holland by herself until she gets older. In the meantime, do I have to let her go over there for visitation? He is allowing me to live anywhere I want to as long as he can be active in her life, which I have no problem with, but he is wanting to move 5000 miles across the ocean. Question, how would I work out visitation for this? Should I tell him he would have to visit over to the USA before I allow her to go over there for visits?

[chatima]

Your friend, the 3rd year law student, should know how to conduct research on the question of international enforcement of child support. Your lawyer friend should also let you know that your soon-to-be ex-husband is in no position to allow or disallow your choice of residence.

I would not allow a child under 14 travel internationally alone. If he wants visitation, he should come to the child's residence until she is older.

By the way, Netherlands is GREAT! I used to live there. If, for any reason I could no longer live in the U.S., I would live in the Netherlands.

The Dutch have lots of social services available. Find out if they have an agency to help with visitation issues. Start with the Dutch bar association. (Most professionals in the Netherlands are multilingual. You will be able to talk to an attorney who speaks English. Your state's bar association may have members whose practice includes Netherlands; call your state bar to find out.)