Give family my daughter's SS card?

[bellden]

Why am I weirded out that my in-laws are asking for my one year old daughter's social security card? They won't tell us why they need it, but they are good people. I think they are going to be putting money in an education account for her (which would be incredibly generous of them!), but that's just a guess. I am a little offended because they have been very judgmental of us in the past, and this is like them going over our heads as the parents. What's my problem? I feel so selfish, I'm sure I sound crazy. Would you give your daughters social security card to your in-laws?

[porter]

Only times I've needed my son's SS# to date (he's two years old) is to claim him as a dependent on my income taxes and to state him as a beneficiary on my life insurance. I did not need it to enroll him under my medical insurance. And I didn't need the physical card just the number.

I would think it a strange question myself and I don't think there's anything wrong with your asking why.

[leland]

If they want the number, you deserve to know why.

Could be any number of things though. Education account, savings bonds, beneficiary to insurance, etc. Or could be nefarious as in opening credit under her name, or identity theft. But you do deserve to know.

[thacher]

Why would they need the actual card... No, I would not give my child's SS card to anyone. My parents and in laws have asked me for my kids SS# for savings bonds, which I had no issue giving them. I can't see a reason why your in laws would need the actual card. Weird.

[ahanu]

Don 't give it to them. They do not need it to save money for her. It is also NOT needed for a savings bond....a friend of mine gave one to my son, she did not need his ss to get it.

[lifton]

If I trusted them then yeah I would give it to them but if you're having doubts ask your friend or your husband's opinion.

[adaya]

Unless they tell you why they need it I would not give them the nuumber. Period.

[varik]

My inlaws? No, but not because they are inlaws, just because of who they are as people. As for in your situation, if I had inlaws that I trusted and were good people, I still wouldnt give that kind of information out to anyone, doesnt matter who, not even my own parents, unless I know why. Thats kind of information is high security and if it got into the wrong hands your child could have their identity stolen. I would need to know exactly where their social security number is being sent to and what they are doing with it. As for the case of an education fund, dont be offended, I honestly dont think they mean to go behind your backs, they might just want to surprise you as a gift.