How Do I Deal With The Gossip, And Slander At Church And How Do I Regain My Peace?

[Garvin]

In a nutshell, there was this guy who attempted to pursue me at church, but I walked away since he's married. This has been going on for some time, but the scenario has gotten uglier. Okay, we each recognize there is this attraction, but he seems to be gossiping and slandering me to his wife and other members of the church.....YES CHURCH. They dissappeared for some time, and I realized the when they weren't there, that there was no drama. Nevertheless, not too long ago I've just had this urge to make peace

[luther]

"Seems to me to be gossiping" You have no proof. And you need to do nothing. Ignore them. Do not try to "make peace". First of all, you are at as much fault as he is. Second, you are looking to cause more drama, not regain your peace.Go to a different service than them. Say nothing, do nothing, and let this gossip and slander, if there actually is any, die.>Okay, we both recognize there's this attraction, He is MARRIED. You have NO business being attracted. You are encouraging this. Shame on you.   TurboB 15 months ago

[hyun-su]

I see two options, tell the Pastor and see what he recos.Or go to another church.As for making peace with the trouble makers....ummmmm can he/they be trusted?Perhaps another poster has a better option than I.best wishes   KennyWally 15 months ago

[Klevon]

You could talk to your minister to include in a sermon the subject of "slandering your neighbor," and he could include any number of wrong things in dealing with others. "Love thy neighbor as thyself."That ought to get the message across to the entire congregation without pointing fingers.   MaryAnn 15 months ago

[Orwald]

Religious hypocrisy is the worse. Good luck finding your peace as you will find it elusive. Want real truth? Seek it elsewhere. Read Eric Von Daniken's "Chariots of the Gods." What you seek is not in any church.   kritiper 15 months ago

[Aldwyn]

didn't you ask this, months ago, under another account?   TurboB 15 months ago

[Hanan]

Pray and expose: " Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.18 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them"(Matthew 18:15-20.) First, pray; second, go to the person and confront him with his sin(show Scripture detailing that it IS a sin), and demand repentance and change. If you get denials(which I expect), involve 2 or 3 others who know him. If he still refuses to repent, involve the pastor(you might need to show him the Matthew 18:15-20 there to prove he must involve himself in this) and have the entire congregation know his sin and demand his repentance. Then if he refuses, he should be ignored even if he shows up. Unfortunately, what'll probably happen is your pastor will decline to be involved in your "personal matter." That merely tells you to look for an obedient fellowship.   danielpauldavis 15 months ago

[Irvine]

There should be guilt if he is married and you still were attracted...didn't tell yourself to stop. This guy may be a player...attract 100 women. It maybe a brain issue. Making peace...You just want to talk to him again...more attraction. Go to a different church or different day. You don't feel sorry for the wife? If he is gossiping/slandering you...then he is not acting well..red flags for narcissism and more. People like this may act one way in public and another privately. If he divorces it maybe hell if you married him...he may abuse you. Best wishes.   Shasha 15 months ago

[zadok]

:-)   KennyWally 15 months ago

[Jonas]

What is the best remedy to forget about someone?   ee22 14 months ago