How do you tell someone you were raped?

[darik2]

The first time it happened was over 11 years ago when I was only 12 and I suppressed it. It was done by someone I thought I had loved at the time. A year later a stranger had done it to me again, this time much further and more scarring. When I was 14 and 15, the same guy who did it to me the first time did it again, on school property.. Then when I was dating one of my brother's friends when I was 16, he decided to molest me right beside my brother while he was zoned out in games. It's messed me up, I know it has because it's finally not being able to be suppressed any longer. The thing is, who do I tell? How do I say it? Most importantly how can I deal with it? Please help me as I am now jumping at shadows and looking over my shoulder once more.

[shadrach]

you need professional help

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Follow this script:
"I got raped. Wanna hear about it?"

[artzai]

Follow this script:
"I got raped. Wanna hear about it?"

Talk to the people who loves and cares about u like ur parents.

[chika]

Tell people who are closest to you (a good friend, family member, parents). The first step is getting it off your chest. I'm so sorry this happened to you, it happened to me too and I started to feel better after confiding in someone I was comfortable with. As far as how to say it just be honest and say what happened. After that I would recommend some counseling to help deal with the trauma.

[panteno]

Confront the bastard that did it to you. Tell him what it did to you, and how you feel.

Men are really stupid creatures, they do things without thinking. Maybe this man matured? Bring your brother along just incase. It would be good telling your brother first, as it is easier. Im sure he would gladly go with you to protect you.

You can also get professional help from someone

[victorio83]

You MUST get rid of the blame and shame as the expression goes.
If 11 years ago you were 12, you are a 23 year old adult now.
First you go to your doctor and make sure you book lots of time to speak with him or her.
Secondly, after the doctor you go to the police.
Whether they charge anyone or just warn them won't change what has happened to you.
Deal with it head on, no excuses of any kind

Good luck

[rickie]

I can somewhat relate with what you are going through as I was raped as a teen. The first step I took was telling myself that it wasn't my fault then found someone to talk to who would listen and not judge. If you need someone to talk to you can e-mail me [email protected] I will listen and give advice if you ask for it. Start with telling yourself that it's not your fault and you were just a kid. Now you are a strong woman and will never let it happen to you again.