How to deal with my troublesome in-laws?

[melville]

we have shifted to this new city 6 months back. my in-laws stay at a 5-minutes distance from our place. i had been working earlier but now i'm just staying at home trying to figure out what to do in the new city. my husband is in a job which requires him to be out of country every alternate month.
now the problem is that my inlaws are proving to be very controlling and interfering. my mom-in-law is always full of herself and full of unwanted advice. she tells me how to keep the house, run the household, deal with servants etc etc. we do not have children but she has already started telling me how to bring them up when we have them. she keeps repeating the same old advice over and over and over again and it becomes too much for me.
my dad-in-law is very overbearing, full of sarcasm and controlling. he always wants either us to be at their place or them to be at ours. when my husband is in town, they keep calling us asking what we r doing and what plans we have for the day. we meet them everyday/ every alternate day.
when my husband is out of town, they want me to keep visitng them or go and stay with them. these day my bro in law and his family is here and i have been meeting them every single day and they want it to go on like this. with my husband not around, i dont feel much comfortable with them.
when i refuse their invitation, they dont listen and start giving orders. if i convey it thru my husband, then they start passing sarcastic comments. i feel i am being deprived of my space. the idea of staying in separate houses, yet staying close was to not to impinge upon anyone's freedom yet being there when help is needed. but they r failing the purpose. i didnt want to set boundaries for them but i have noticed that when we start meeting often, their expectations rise more and more.
i have been a very independent and free-spirited person but now all this is making me feel stressed and unable to adjust in the city. pls tell me how to deal with them.

[merla15]

I personally prefer a 12 gauge but in your case I recommend a .357 mag. Or a 50 cal might shut them up too... Hope this helps!!

[unss94]

you have dealt with u r in laws superbly..dont care whatever the comment if they pass on you ..elder people are like that .they keep on advicing .just shake the head even if it is irritating .i you cant tolerate them better ask your husband to get transfer to other places

[curran]

You need to fight..u need to tell ur husband that i cant live like this anymore..things have to change I PITY ON YOU LIFE BECOMES MISERABLE THAT WAY..Now u need to make a big move or else u WILL KEEP CRYING UR ENTIRE LIFE..NOBODY SHOULD COME BETWEEN HUSBAND-WIFE RELATIONSHIP TELL UR HUSBAND ABOUT THIS TELL HIM TO CHANGE HIS JOB AS U NEED HIM ON THOSE TIME TELL HIM EXACTLY HOW U FEEL AND HE WOULD DO SOMETHING..AFTER MARRIAGE A WOMEN IS SUPPOSED TO GET LOVE AND HAPPINESS AND EVERYTHING THAT THEIR PARENTS COULDNT GIVE GOD BLESS U:-)HOPE THINGS CHANGE