Dealing with troublesome in-laws?

[hyun-su]

I stay at a place which is just 2 kilometers away from my in law's house. my husband's job requires him to be away from home every alternate month. the problem is that my father in law is very blunt, outspoken and quarrelsome. he tries to poke into every affair of our house to the extent that he keeps asking us what r we doing about planning our family. my mother in law, although a bit sober than him, supports him most of the times. when my husband is away for a month, they object if i fly to my mom. instead they look for ways to enter my household. they tell my husband, if i need help my mom in law can come n stay with me. whereas the fact is i do not need help as i'm a very independent person and ask for help only for things i can't handle. still they try to force their help on me. i'm not very attached or friendly to them coz they have misbehaved with me many a times in the past. my father in law makes it a point to quarrel with us on every big occasion, my birthday included. they want to see a change in me but i can't help it. i simply can not forget the way they have behaved with me so its difficult for me to be friendly with them. how to cope with the situation?

[darce]

you have to try to talk to them and explain how you feel, try talking to your husband too.

[syvwkh]

you have to try to talk to them and explain how you feel, try talking to your husband too.

Sanya, Sabse pehli baat koi bhi galat faisla tumhari zindagi ko kharaab kr sakta hai...
Ab tumhari tumhare parents , husband, in laws se judi hai...
So soch samajh ke decision lena
Jhagde kis ghar mei nahi hoote, har ghar ki kahaani yahi hai...
ek baar apne in laws ki najar se bhi baato ko samjho, unki age , unki thinking samjho
Phir bhi kuch samjh na aaye toh apni kisi sahi frnd se consider karo...
Agar phir bhi answer nahi milta toh Tum ANSWER likho...Tum action lo....tum dosro ke liye prerna baano
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Agar jarurat padi toh Aurat Jhansi ki Rani Lakshmi Bai bhi hai
Baat insaaf ki ho toh aurat Kiran Bedi aur Indira Gandhi bhi hai

Aurat kamjoor nahi hoti bus apni sincerity ki wajah se chup hooti hai..
Sanya agar tumhare sasural waale galat hai toh unke khilaaf lado...