How would you feel about this?

[hob97]

My daughter is named Amina Abigale, however since i was pregnant my husband and i have been calling her Abby. My friends and family all call her Abby because that is what we call her by. My family is American and my in laws are Bosnian.. My mother in law initially tried to name our baby for us and made it clear she hated Abby or Abigale. Yesterday my brother in law called her Abigale and my mother in law said "no, its Amina" and it really irritated me. I have learned not to say anything to her because it falls on deaf ears. My husband thinks its fine that his side of the family calls her Amina. The part that made me mad was her telling others what to call my baby... (she is 8 months old). Am i over reacting or am i right to feel mad?

[giulio]

My inlaws are Bosnian also.The older ones are super set in there ways,pressing the issue probably wont help. I think it was clever to give her both names Amina and Abigale. Let them call her that,its not like the baby cares,,you know?TYou have every right to be irritated,its not her place.the baby can decide which name she prefers when she's old enough and you can snicker behind your mother in laws back if its Abigale ;)

[adin55]

I don't think that you are overreacting because she is your child, I think that your mother in law should not be telling others what to call your baby because she is not her mother you are and she should respect that. You should talk to your husband and tell him to tell his mother that it bothers you, because it is going to confuse your daughter.

[cumhea]

Generally when you have a child that goes by their middle name I've found that some people call them their first name and others call them by their middle name. It's just something that happens. My brother's name is Ricky Dustin. To his family he is Dustin but to all his friends and teachers at school, and even some doctors, he is Ricky.

[zadok]

you have the right to be madd. my oldest daughters name is Amata meaning beloved in italian and it drives me crazyyyy when people call her other names.. you're the mother, you pick the name, your husband helps too but i wouldnt let anyone aside from my husband tell me what to call my own daughter

[hagaleah]

Bosnians are really prideful about their nationality. Trust me my classroom is filled with them. I'd let them call her that as her nick name but only by them (:

[muata2]

Bosnians are really prideful about their nationality. Trust me my classroom is filled with them. I'd let them call her that as her nick name but only by them (:

I can understand that the way she said it was rude, but don't get upset about it. That can be her name to her grandparents and she can be Abby to everyone else. As she grows up, her nicknames will change based on life's journeys and the people around her. I wouldn't give it a second thought, call her by the name you want her to answer to, and you can explain to her when she's old enough to understand "yes your first name is Amina, but we call you by your middle name Abigale. Some people go by their middle names but most people go by their first name. Grandma and grandpa like to call you by your first name."

[jorian23]

Oh yeah I know that feeling. I named my daughter Katherine Elizabeth. We call her Elizabeth. I didn't like Katherine but her dad did so I agreed to the name under the condition I name our next child. But I digress. I only like Elizabeth, not liz or Lizzy or Beth or Liza or any of that cutesy crap and what do you know but my family tried calling her all those names. I just continued to push the Elizabeth and made known I didn't like it being shortened. Evrryone calls her Elizabeth now. My husbands family tried calling her Katherine or kitty (shiver) or Kat but once again I was insistent on pushing the Elizabeth. Now no body calls her anything other than Elizabeth. I refused for my daughter to be called a million different names. Your best bet is to refer to the name you want her to have. When your around them, keep using Abby. Be insistent. Eventually they'll cave because they won't get a response from her when they try her other name.

[sylvester37]

There's no right or wrong answer....noone can tell you how to feel. If you are irritated, then you are, and that's that. Both names are beautiful...I don't think there is anything wrong with the other side calling her Amina, as that IS the name that you gave to her, so I would hope that would be ok with you. In the future, if she corrects someone like that again, I would just look at her and say, "oh, no she goes by either name actually". And if she wants to start an argument about it, just again remind her that she goes by either name and will continue to and that's that. Good luck I hate dealing with in laws :/