Husband spending more time with his friends than our family?

[felabeorbt]

My husband and i have been married for almost a year.. I've always felt like he didn't spend much time with me, but I'm starting to see it more now.. he works for anywhere near 8-12 hours a day Monday to friday, he comes home to a clean house and served dinner.. he eats and goes to sleep... And do it all over again.. sometimes I even have to beg for sex, I've come to the point of masturbating (sorry TMI) but if one of his friends calls he would drop everything sometimes even dinner with me, and goes to meet all their requests, on the weekends he usually goes out with his friends. Lately he has been taking me since my sister in law is dating one of his friends she asks me to tag along, but when I am there its if I am not anyway, sometimes he brings his friends home, and asks me to lock my self in my room so they can have "guys time" I am really getting so sick and tired of it, to the point I've been thinking phase a divorce people tell me to do the same but with a 1 year old baby and no car is nearly impossible for me to go out with friends, I am at home all day and he is rarely even here and when he is its like he is not... It's always either his friends or family always "needs him" but i need him too.. how can I help him realize that?... What should I do, I am scared to leave 1 because i love him like I've never loved anyone before and 2 because I don't want to break our home apart our family and all the plans we've made together.. I just want this to stop.. and for us to be a family with him being with us........ Please any advice?

[tredway]

TMI

[avikar76]

TMI

"I've always felt like he didn't spend much time with me."

And yet, you married him anyway. You've made your bed, now you must lie in it, so make it as comfortable as possible. Make some friends, develop some hobbies, throw your masturbation shame into the trash can, and please, STOP waiting on your husband like you're some kind of servant. This is your life - make it the best one it can be.

[curadhan74]

divorce him he has made.it clear he dont care for you and make sure you sue for childsupport the lack of a vehicle also makes me think he is trying.to make you stay tjere which is starting to sound like borderline abusive husband and the childsupport will atleast help the.baby who you should try to.get.custody of as the dad is irresponsible. look as a guy myself yeah we need time away from our lady to just be a guy but there is an acceptable limit to that

[lamarr3]

Some times us men need training. If I were you. I would tell him that your unhappy about things and want to go to your mothers for a while. Your parents dont need not know the truth but tell them you miss them and want to stay a few days. Your parents will know the truth anyway, especially your mom. Women always know. Even though you know you will be back, he doesnt so let him miss some meals and mess up the house. He will get the point.

[osbourne]

He has you lock yourself in a room like a dog? UM, I'd tell him to go F himself and if his friends didn't leave immediately I'd call the police - either put your foot down and change this relationship now or get out - being treated like a dog is NOT an option