I was married for only 4 months to an alcoholic and have been trying to get divorced, its now 18 mos. later?

by **cuartio52** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 10:53 am

I have spent all of my life savings and this man will not let the divorce happen. He seems to know just how to walk the line close enough to the law. What should I do? Is it time to find a new lawyer who might be more aggressive? This man has lied, cheated, and disobeyed the judges rulings without consequence. He was ordered weeks ago by the judge to pay a portion of my attorneys fees. He didn't do it, when brought before the judge his attorney said they were close to settling. This inturn changed the legal venue again. Now after weeks later and several thousands of dollars spent he has decided to withdraw his settlement agreement. I don't think he ever intended to settle this was another ploy to keep this riduculous thing going. I'm trying hard not to let it affect my emotions but I can't help it. It has also caused me to be physically ill and lose time from work. He also falses accuses me of stupid stuff he just makes up like suggesting I have a medical malpractice suit.

by **bachir93** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:02 am

If you don't feel your lawyer is doing his job, get a new one. As you already know final divorce hearings get delayed. It took me two years to get my divorce to be final because my ex-husband did things to delay it. He broke many court orders and he didn't face any consequences. In our final hearing, it was ordered that I was to receive half of what our assets were worth, that my personal items be returned to me, and that half of our son's baby pictures and videos be given to me. Needless to say, I have never received any of these things. I spent thousands and thousands of dollars over those six years. I finally got to the point that I said the heck with the money, my personal items, and the rest of it. My parents had pictures and videos of my son, so I made copies. I gave up, but found peace and sanity at last. It's hard and it does take a toll on you physically, mentally, and emotionally. You need to figure out what is worth fighting for and what isn't. The family court system needs a lot of work. Good luck to you and if you would like to talk, feel free to e-mail me.

by **treasigh** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:06 am

KICK HIM TO THE CURB AND MOVE ON.... THIS IS NOT YOUR LOVE OF YOUR LIFE......This person will only take you down a path of lonelyness and frustration...... do what it takes and put it down as an experience.

by oz » Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:14 am

get a new lawyer. You can get through this. Maybe learn a thing or two from the experience.

by **hob97** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:17 am

Well since you've only been married for a short amount of time have you thought of an anullment on hte grounds of fraud?

by **cinnard** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:22 am

you can probaly get an annulment. it's like the marriage never happened. and get yourself a new lawyer

by **oakley** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:24 am

tell him that he needs to slow down on the alcohol and if he don't kick him out and make him chose you or the beer

by **abisha** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:29 am

I think you are making the situation more complicated. Walk away. Take your debt and leave. It's your sanity more important than debt and material things. If you break all ties he won't be able to keep up this charade.

by **lathrop** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:30 am

Kick his damn *** to the curb and get a new lawyer that is going to do whatever it takes to make the divorce happen!!

by **mace** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:43 am

Indeed, get a better lawyer. At least you don't have kids with this guy or you'd have a real issue.

Don't stoop to his level. If he makes a claim, handle it in the appropriate way (i.e., let your lawyer deal with it), and never respond directly or make your own rediculous claims about him.

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