In an abusive relationship, my sister told my brother in law and he wants to confront husband? Please help!?

[juanito]

I'm currently going through a really awful ordeal. I'm the wife of a very verbally, and until recently abusive man. We have a young daughter, who I try my best to shield it from. My husband comes from a very close knit large affluent family,and he has a younger brother and two other siblings who has always been so nice and really reached out to me. Lately things have really been escalating between me and my husband, so much so that at a recent family event he took me to the side, and what started out as talking in the kitchen, became physical when he led me away,and grabbed my arm bruising it. I have so ashamed,and didn't think anyone saw what happened,but when I recently went out shopping with my sister,she saw the bruises and freaked out. I'm so scared, and I made up an excuse, and thought she believed me. Well, she told her husband and he wants to go after him. I dont know what to do because I feel cornered,and my husband wonders why they keep calling our house,wanting all of us to get together very soon,and talk. Please help me, because even though I'm glad they want to help me, I know he is getting suspicious.

[wardell]

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[kyledyr]

You need help. What if it gets worse? Think about that. Think about your daughter too.

[ezri]

Reality it has to stop what are you doing why are you excusing it for it only to continue. Why do you let him continue doing this, this is just what you need outside help and support, take it let them reach out, leave this horrible man, what do you want him to suddenly loose it one day and kill you, i was there, what will happen to your daughter then. Think about it seriously this man dos not love you, he loves the power he has over you, he uses fear to control you and its working, he is controlling you.

I want you to hear my story, i was with a guy we had a child together like you, in the beginning he was nice, charming and the whole lot. It was a year till the abuse started, first he complained about what i wore, i could not wear that, it was to revealing, he started calling me names if other guys made advances towards me, that was not my fault, i were attractive, i had confidence and slowly he started taking that away from me. He started putting me down for no reason, i stupid me at the time started thinking there was something wrong with me, i was young, vulnerable, i had just moved to another country, did not know many people, if i did not comply to his wishes and advances he first started with locking me in the apartment we were staying in, it was on the 3rd floor, i thought then i had to get out, he then came back hit me i blacked out, he kept on saying sorry, dumb me went back i was pregnant, he promised he would get help. I stayed with his parents for a while. He slayed off me while pregnant except once, i had the child, and then he would leave me alone all the time, he was never around or he would verbally abuse me. Till one day i was ready to leave him, he caught me and beat me up so badly, he even dragged me on concrete, thanks to neighbors and others that came to my rescue i would have been dead. I went to hospital i was concussed, unconscious, the police were called and he was arrested. He was sentenced to prison, i had a broken arm, a broken leg, 2 black eyes, he hit me numerous times in my head till i passed out. The police helped me with accommodation, i got full custody, he was ordered a danger to the child by a judge. I moved somewhere he could not find me, i even changed name. It was horrible but i felt nothing but relief when i was free. Free of him he was pure evil, and i know till this day there is no love in people like this, they do not know how to love. You are destroying your child and the damage it dos to yourself can be healed. You become stronger, and now i can see through guys like that very early after meeting them. Please leave you have no idea how much better life is on the other side.
The police made sure he was prosecuted i thank them every day for what they did for me.
I only had to get up in the morning sit down and read a paper and he would start, seriously when i look back i know he had major issues. I felt trapped then i had no one, you have support use it for the sake of your daughter.