Is it bad of me to be annoyed by this guy?

[byron92]

Well first off I've got to tell you that's he's got this major crush on me, though I don't feel the same way. At first I was flattered but now he'd starting to get on my nerves.
I'll explain why:
-He constantly stares, in class, walking down the street, with friends
-He pays way too much attention to what i'm doing; like i'll be on the other side of the class during a study period doing this math booklet, and after class he'll come up to me and go "Were you doing the math booklet?", so the only way for him to know of that was if he was watching what I was doing
-He interrupts my conversations: I'll be, very obviously, in a discussion with my friend/s, and he'll come over and tap or touch my shoulder to get my attention and then go onto have a conversation with me. Even though we're not friends. (personally I think interrupting a conversation is rude, he's done it multiple times)

To be honest his actions are getting a bit stalker like, I'm not annoyed at his feelings for me (I know people can't control what they feel), but I feel like i'm constantly under surveillance from this guy (like everything I do is being watched) and it's not a good feeling.
Would you be annoyed? Do you have any recommendations as to how I could get him to stop liking me? (I've never lead him on, we talked during the holidays because we were in the same class together but that was only a couple of 3 minute conversations over 5 days, and I was just being civil and talking about work and school)

[aingeni]

yeah, i understand your annoyance. its perfectly acceptable for you to be annoyed, but the NUMBER ONE rule to handling this is to make sure that you stay civil and polite. you can do one of several things:

first, you could confront him if it really bothers you to an uncomfortable level. next time he taps you on the shoulder when you are with your friends and starts talking to you, excuse yourself from your friends, and go somewhere a little more private to tell him that you don't appreciate him looking at you all the time, and interrupting your conversations with your friends, as you believe it is rude. state this very clearly, as boys usually need a concrete response in situations like these. seriously, dont try subtlety here. at the end, you should tell him you want him to stop. dont say its stalkerish of him to stare because that may offend him.

another thing you can do if it doesnt bother you too much yet is give the situation just a few more weeks, as he could come to his senses on his own. I've actually seen this happen before. but only leave it alone for the time being if you're ok with the stares continuing a little longer. If it does bother you to an unignorable degree, then just go straight to asking him to stop. if he doesn't stop, try confronting him like it says above, and if that doesnt work, you should let someone with more authority know like a teacher. the teacher should be able to talk to the guy again, and if he notices the guy is staring at you continually throughout his class, he can handle the situation more cleanly than you will be able to do alone.

[fiacre68]

yes

[hillocke]

I had a "friend" who has "stalker-ish" like that. He was desperate to gave a girlfriend that he ended up scaring all the girls away.

The best thing to do is to be upfront and direct. Just state simply and directly (and with witnesses around, maybe a friend with you) that he's making you uncomfortable and you don't like it at all. He should get the message. But if he doesn't (not all guys are good at picking up those clues) next step may be to talk to a teacher/counselor/resource officer about it.

But if you don't prefer the direct approach, drop hints that you're already unavailable. Have a guy friend pretend to be your "BF."

And if this doesn't work, start ignoring the guy.

(BTW, my "stalker friend" was told to go F--- off directly.)