My girl friend is saying good bye to an old guy friend that is leaving for the army, should i be worried?

[urian27]

Well where to begin

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 months now and things are pretty serious.
We both know that we love each other, and everything is going great until I hear that she's going away for two days to say good bye to old friend of hers who is being shipped off to Cuba for military services. After I hear this news I lose it a little, especially with physics text and a math test back to back I end up staying up for two days straight. In the mean time I see her during and in between classes and my insecurities get the best of me and I start being a dick to her, using passive aggressive comments and insinuations to make her feel bad too. Of course these immature actions backfire and she ends up hating me for it. I tell her I'm sorry and that I was only acting this way because of stress and the fact that she's going to go say goodbye to this guy.

Let me tell you a little about this guy. She's known him since the 6th grade and he's had a crush on her till probably now. She's never really been interested in him, but now there's the question of him leaving, and perhaps fighting and never coming back. He's a virgin also and what I'm afraid of the most is that he comes up to her, and says that he doesn't want to go the the army a virgin. And I'm afraid she'll cave in. And I don't know what they're up to, drinking smoking weed, I don't know and anything could trigger her to lose control and sleep with this guy.

Now I'm torn up because there is nothing i can do about it other than sit here and ride it out. All I'm really asking for is peace of mind. She's not communicating with me either, its driving me crazy. Please, I'd pray to God but it takes a while for he/she to answer. So I'm here hoping that someone can help calm me down.

Anything you give me is much appreciated

[adaya]

I'd be concerned if my girlfriend was leaving for 2 days to visit a guy friend, military or not. He may not even really be a virgin, that could just be a line he's using, but he quite likely will try to play on the "man in uniform" appeal to get her to have sex with him - something that you have to face that she probably wants too. If he's had a crush on her for many years, it's probably not a friendly hug goodbye that he invited her to come stay overnight for. I mean I know none of this for a fact, but I'd say it's a very strong chance your girlfriend will be having sex with this guy. I'm sorry, I don't want to be mean, but I know human nature and hormones. She probably likes him too, but she'll never admit it, and if you accuse a woman of cheating without proof, they usually act mad and make you out to be the bad guy for "accusing them" - trust me I've been there. The good news is, after she sleeps with him and he goes off, she will come back to you, so if you can live with that, you're golden, but most people don't accept cheating. I can't guarantee anything, but my guess is she will be having sex with him.

[joachim]

Actually you are worried . So, calm down it seems like you love her a lot . Don't worry i think nothing is gonna happen .