My neighbor won't leave me alone! Help?

by **amdt57** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 1:42 am

My family and I moved to this upscale neighborhood after my father started a successful business. One of the employees who has a high standing in my father's company (he's basically the second in command next to my father) happens to live right next door. The only thing that separates our property from his is a short iron gate, so every time one of us is outside he can see everything we're doing. My family loves this guy and have gotten really close, but I can't help but feeling like he's constantly watching me. Whether I'm swimming in our pool or just playing with my dog he always happens to be watching me. It didn't bother me that much until he started purposely invading my personal space by bumping into me or grazing my arm. I'm only sixteen and this man is in his mid-thirties. He showed his true intentions at my father's company dinner when he got drunk and asked me to do something with him so gross I'm too embarrassed to type it. He's gotten me alone before and has tried to make me have sex with him. I have clearly stated that I am not interested but he won't stop. If I tell my father or anyone whats going on I'm afraid it could have serious consequences for my father's business. I really need help because I'm afraid of what he could do next. Any suggestions?

by **bothan** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 1:43 am

I think you should go to the police.

by **sylvester37** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 2:04 am

You have to tell SOMEBODY!! Tell his wife or something! Tell a friend! You can't just keep quiet and let him rape yuuuu! D: If it's getting that bad, go to your dad and say, "Dad, I don't want this to interfere with your work," and then tell him what this guy has been doing! Maybe your neighbor will get fired! Anything is better than what he could do. And if he gets tired of you saying no, while he's drunk he may get mad. :( Please tell SOMEBODY

by **gedalyahu** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 2:07 am

If I were you, I would tell my dad. He really need to know this even if he doesn't believe, tell your mom or another adult. What a frigging pervert. If you don't/can't inform your dad of it, tell social services and see what advices they can give you to protect yourself as much as you can.

Take good care of yourself.

by **zadok** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 2:08 am

hes trying to take advantage of you ...stay out of his site ...tell your mom and dad ...if you cant tell them face to face write about it and leave forthem to read ..and mention how it has effected you...theyll sort it out...your safety is more important than your dads business...

by **bronsin** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 2:16 am

hes trying to take advantage of you ...stay out of his site ...tell your mom and dad ...if you cant tell them face to face write about it and leave forthem to read ..and mention how it has effected you...theyll sort it out...your safety is more important than your dads business...

Ask your father's help

by **vanaken25** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 2:19 am

I think you should place a video where he wouldn't suspect and if your alone with him it will be on tape. This guy is a creep and is trying to take advantage of you because of his position. Tell him to stay away from you. Tell your mom and some of her other lady friends and maybe they can watch out for you. Dont let this guy into your home if your fathers not there. Try to get this on video or even your camera phone if you have one.

by **wakeley58** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 2:29 am

This is very serious. Please read my answer all the way through. Trust your father. Talk to him and your mother together about this. You have not mentioned your mother, if you can talk to them together then please do. Start off with Dad/Mom I have something I must discuss with you, but I am afraid... say what you did in the last two sentences above. Then say the first stuff you said above. If your father is wise enough to start and run a business and have a family, he may be able to handle this more carefully and more skillfully than you realize. Trust your father. He loves you and he sounds smart enough to protect you. If you don't talk to your father this IS going to get worse. At least allow your father the opportunity to handle this, to control things and manage things for your good and protection and the good and protection of your family and his business.

by **gofraidh34** » Thu Dec 22, 2011 2:33 am

well, i would start carrying a cell phone everywhere, and tell your mom. and her friends. just like the other person said, they can watch out for you. and tell your father. he can set up tall wooden fences (like the ones we have) and you are his daughter. dont feel like if you tell him, his business will be damaged. your neighbor could sue, but if you have evidence, he wont win. your father will believe you, and if you are alone with him, and he starts showing signs of being inappropriate, secretly start recording with your phone. you dont have to get your faces or anything. you just need to get the conversation. and set up video cameras. in your backyard, in the front of your house, and things like that. avoid him as much as possible, and dont go anywhere alone. tell your trusted friends too. but only the people you trust. tell all the people you can trust and they will look out for you. be careful. if this gets serious, GET THE POLICE. stalker cases are hard to prove. you will need a LOT of evidence. phone calls, conversations, witnesses, etc. good luck! also, try getting a security system. just in case.

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