My partner's mum calls me names & makes up stories (UK)

[DrDee]

Hi,

I've been with my partner for five years. He's a nice and caring person but his family are all horrible people. I don't really care about any of them and they don't care about me so we stay out of each other's way. His mother however has had a campaign against me since before she met me. She's been calling me horrible names and talks to other members of the extended family (that I get along with) and makes up stories about me that are not true. She keeps saying I take advantage of her son and his money (he hasn't got any) and calls my family and me names all the time. My family has been nothing but nice to my boyfriend and them but she's crazy and she hates the world! She does that about everyone I ever met, including my boyfriend. So a year ago I got fed up and moved. Now my boyfriend wants to move to the city where I live to get away and be with me. She keeps sending me and him e-mails trashing me saying that I make him come here by threatening with break up, which I never did and that I've put him in debt and other things like this. He's begging me to come here so he can get away from her. In the e-mails she's also and threatening him that she would cut him off if he came here and other things like that.

She's someone who has not left her house in 35 years, has no friends and she hates the world! Just to give you an idea, she sent my boyfriend to a school for children with Down Syndrome and other severe learning difficulties because he had dyslexia!! All his life, even now, she's been trying to convince him he's "slow" and incapable of doing anything without her, despite the fact that he has a university degree and a great job. I feel so sorry for him cause she has completely robbed him of his teenage years by isolating him from friends but I can't take the abuse anymore so I did something I'm not proud off; I forwarded one of her horrible e-mails to three of the relatives because in that e-mail she said that the relatives " are really worried" about my boyfriend cause they think I'm taking advantage of him. What she wrote is probably a lie just to make her case against me stronger (she does that a lot) but if it's true, I wanted them to feel bad for being nice to my face and then think these horrible things about me.

All this started getting to me. I'm getting really depressed, I can't sleep and I'm constantly worried and crying. My boyfriend insists he wants to move here and assures me that we'll have a normal life but I find it hard to believe. How can we get married and have kids like this? What can I do if this keeps happening? I can't put up with the abuse anymore Is there anything I can do legally to stop her?

thanks