My Problem: Ultimately, After About 12 Years In An Unhappy Relationship, I Was Prepared To Keep An Attorney And Obtain A Divorce.

[Rule]

I'd constultation with lawyer about 3 mo. Previously, after member of the family tipped me off that he was likely to contact exact same lawyer.Soon as he found I'd discussion, he terminated my charge card and shut-down our joint checking account where his check was placed. Then he opened their own bank account to which I've no access.Starts providing me sort of allocation to operate the residence each week.Actually halted the email going to the home till I found and known as the Postoffice and had it transformed backTook over-paying all of the costs, and will not let me hold files of them, claims he tosses them away.I got upset and told him I was critical about keeping the attorney, and that he was treating me just like a kid getting punished for doing the very same he was about to doThere hasbeen no intimacy or adore in between us in decades, & not for my insufficient trying.Abruptly he recognized I am significant. These days he's sobbing, repentant, pleading, observe db for further details:

[Saeger]

[Kuhlbert]

Her five oldest left as soon as they could, including me. Unlike children, you've a choice. Take it. Guilt trip? for leaving a fruitcake with vendetta tendencies? Sheesh, I'd feel guilty if I didn't leave. Document everything and bring it up in trial as proof why this person is not reliable, must be divorced, does not provide, and should not be awarded anything but rather can be expected to defy court orders to pay alimony, etc. Hang 'im.

[Curadhan]

Do not worry about his motives, protect yourself. After 34 years, as you say, with the last 12 miserable, you really need to make up your mind that life is too short to suffer like this.    There are plenty of great men out there of any age who will appreciate all you have to offer, but you need to be free first to move on with your life.    Even if you get divorced, you and your ex can still be friends, but to put it bluntly, save your own butt first! THEN you can worry about whether or not he is sincere.  You need to take back your own power and no, you do not intentd to fleece him like some golddigger, BUT you do need to be sure you are safely and securely provided for.   I know when things like this happen, people feel like they are the only person in the world it has happened to, but the biggest mistake they make is in not consulting a professional first, in this case lawyers and counsellors, and even your banker, and also then change their minds.   Do not let your emotions rule in this, let your common sense rule. change and the end of something are always upsetting, especially at this time of year, but carry with you a vision of what you would really want your wonderful new life to be like, and then take the practical steps you need to to make that new and wonderful reality come about. You CAN do it!  And we are here to cheer you on. As someone else on the boards said, you can be abused without the person ever laying a finger on you. Coldness is emotional abuse.   Very best of luck and and many blessings!     wildaboutbooks44 49 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Monte]

How long are you going to complain about this? Everyone being supportive is great, but and I know this is going to sound harsh, but it seems you need a wakeup call.    Why the hell would you go to the same lawyer he was going to go to. DUH!  Sounds like you wanted him to know to see what type of reaction you would get. Well, you got one!   You don't work and contribute money to pay bills or contribute to the accounts, so what he did understandable. You're just pissed off that he did it before you did.   Kar, if you were serious you would have done it already. You've asked this question too many times here. How many times does everyone need to pat you on the back, hold your hand and tell you it's okay to leave.   So, what if he is crying and begging. Do you want to stay in a loveless marriage or do you want to get out and live? You are a grown woman with a mind of her own, start acting like it.     Want a plan?  Get a job, get another lawyer, pack your bags and leave.

[Montrell]

I'm not going to coddle you like the others here. How long are you going to complain about this? Everyone being supportive is great, but and I know this is going to sound harsh, but it seems you need a wakeup call.    Why the hell would you go to the same lawyer he was going to go to. DUH!  Sounds like you wanted him to know to see what type of reaction you would get. Well, you got one!   You don't work and contribute money to pay bills or contribute to the accounts, so what he did understandable. You're just pissed off that he did it before you did.   Kar, if you were serious you would have done it already. You've asked this question too many times here. How many times does everyone need to pat you on the back, hold your hand and tell you it's okay to leave.   So, what if he is crying and begging. Do you want to stay in a loveless marriage or do you want to get out and live? You are a grown woman with a mind of her own, start acting like it.     Want a plan?  Get a job, get another lawyer, pack your bags and leave. Anonymous 49 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Sowingwa]

Experience anything like that? Hoo boy, yes, with my mother. Paranoid schizophrenic, she. Her five oldest left as soon as they could, including me. Unlike children, you've a choice. Take it. Guilt trip? for leaving a fruitcake with vendetta tendencies? Sheesh, I'd feel guilty if I didn't leave. Document everything and bring it up in trial as proof why this person is not reliable, must be divorced, does not provide, and should not be awarded anything but rather can be expected to defy court orders to pay alimony, etc. Hang 'im. danielpauldavis 49 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Ricardo]

It may be a good time to see a marriage counselor. You've been suffering - now he's suffering - it's time for some professional help. I've been there too and if it wasn't for a family therapist whom we both visited together - my husband and I wouldn't have made it through.   Please get your husband to agree and I think he would now that he thinks you're going to leave him. Give it a try!!!  Good Luck and my best wishes and my heart go out to you both.

[Anrai]

Karen... It may be a good time to see a marriage counselor. You've been suffering - now he's suffering - it's time for some professional help. I've been there too and if it wasn't for a family therapist whom we both visited together - my husband and I wouldn't have made it through.   Please get your husband to agree and I think he would now that he thinks you're going to leave him. Give it a try!!!  Good Luck and my best wishes and my heart go out to you both. MusicLoverMe 49 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Kunsgnos]

After 34 years, as you say, with the last 12 miserable, you really need to make up your mind that life is too short to suffer like this.    There are plenty of great men out there of any age who will appreciate all you have to offer, but you need to be free first to move on with your life.    Even if you get divorced, you and your ex can still be friends, but to put it bluntly, save your own butt first! THEN you can worry about whether or not he is sincere.  You need to take back your own power and no, you do not intentd to fleece him like some golddigger, BUT you do need to be sure you are safely and securely provided for.   I know when things like this happen, people feel like they are the only person in the world it has happened to, but the biggest mistake they make is in not consulting a professional first, in this case lawyers and counsellors, and even your banker, and also then change their minds.   Do not let your emotions rule in this, let your common sense rule. change and the end of something are always upsetting, especially at this time of year, but carry with you a vision of what you would really want your wonderful new life to be like, and then take the practical steps you need to to make that new and wonderful reality come about. You CAN do it!  And we are here to cheer you on. As someone else on the boards said, you can be abused without the person ever laying a finger on you. Coldness is emotional abuse.   Very best of luck and and many blessings!