Need of some friend advise?

[favian]

I've been having some 'tension' moments with a couple of my friends. It's a very long story but from my side of the story, everything seemed fine. Whenever my friends and I hung out it seemed normal to me at least but then one day, from my feeling, I felt like something was off with some of the friends that I hung out with. Then a few weeks past and I disregarded this feeling thinking it was just me then I would hear from time to time them talking about me right when I am there with them. Again, I tried to disregard it thinking that I had misheard but they persistently would talk behind my back and I didn't know why because literally all I would do was hang out with them as we normally would. This made me feel very upset and awkward and so I tried to still hang out with them as if I didn't hear anything and I guess I started to act a little differently by being withdrawn. This didn't help because then they started to talk more behind my back. These people that were talking about me then started to do some absurd things like seeing if I was spying on them while they were on their phone trying to see what their text messages were (which unintentionally sometimes my mind wandered and I tend to look at what people are doing as in their movements but as soon as I realize I'm doing so I turn away and in no way trying to pry into their phone or anything personal), sometimes when I felt left out of the conversation I would turn to one of my girlfriends and talk to her then they would try to slyly get near us to see if we were talking about them and then they'd report back saying we weren't while we were literally a meter away from them, and etc. I really couldn't understand why all of this was going on until I heard one of my friends say to his brother as we were leaving a friends house that I 'wanted' him in a romantic way (his brother didn't believe I can't believe it!) which in no way have I ever indicated that I ever have or would want to. So then I started to put pieces of possible puzzles together from the times we hung out. What I have concluded was that one of my friends whom I respected like an older brother (who made the remark) was having a fling with this girl I used to know and so I thought that if she is having a fling with one of my friends why not just be friends with her. I don't know if she took this as a sign of hostility, trying to interfere with them or something but I would try and ask her if she would want to hang out she'd reply she was busy probably from wanting to hang out with my that friend which I could understand so I took that as a sign of maybe she just wanted to be left alone. Oddly, before the fling I went to a party with her and we were socializing as if everything was normal. I was actually glad and thought maybe we'll reconnected be friends but after that she didn't talk to me much again. Once, it was that girl, me and two other of my girlfriends that were hanging out. I thought things were going well until we were leaving the park and the girl was straggling behind so I was waiting for her so she wouldn't be left behind. She was on her phone I think texting and I was just looking back at her waiting when she looked up at me saying what are you looking at?! then ran past me to catch up with the other two. I was taken back at was she said and didn't react in time to respond. (Also I think this is the reason why my friends were suspecting me trying to pry into their phones) So then after things went awry with my friend and that girl and they stopped seeing each other which was around the time I got into an car accident. I then slowly drifted away from the friends seeing as if I didn't have any friends to rely depend on even when I tired to (after the car accident was when I heard my friend say that I wanted him also they thought I was faking my injuries 4 attention)& because of the accident I had a concussion that made it really hard fro me to concentrate and etc so I started to experience weird symptoms like any type of noise made it sound much louder then it really was also at the time I didn't know I had a concussion I thought they were spying on me. Then oddly enough one day I was going to get physical therapy treatment when I noticed a car that was following since I left home. At first I thought it was just a random car until it got close enough for my eyes to land on the license plate with one of my friend's name on it following me. I was freaking out thinking why are they following me so I just rushed into the physical therapy facility. I didn't know what to do so I kept it to myself until I decided that I was going to ask one of my friends if he knew about this. Dummy me asked the friend that made the remark liking him, thinking I could trust him bu then he responded no...I'm not following you...persay!!! What am i suppose to do? Do I cut off connections with these peopl

[larry]

Honestly i would cut off connections with these people. They are obviously not true friends if they are saying stuff behind your back, and what type of friends are they if they don't even see if you are alright after your accident! I think that these group of girls are rude and want attention themselves, i would drop it all and stop talking to them, they are nasty and need to just lay off. You need to find someone who is actually going to talk to you and not think that everything you do has something to do with trying to get into their personal life. These girls will get karma for not being true friends. Go and find someone who will listen to you and actually make sure you are alright and not talk behind your back, because that's what real friends do, it might take time, but soon enough you will find friends who are willing to be there for you, not talk behind your back and want to show you their phones because they have nothing to hide because they trust you with everything.

Hope it helped :).

[arber47]

find new friends. These relationships arent healthy.