Need your opinion on a family issue?

[ardwyad]

Ugh I wrote this all yesterday and it didn't work, So again! My husband WAS going to open a auto business with his brother. Long story short his brother tried to rip us off for $9000.00. We had to get our lawyer involved to get it back. Anyways, my issue is that his brother opened the business and my dad takes his vehicle there to be serviced. My husband now, does not want my anything to do with my dad. My parents have just sold their home of 35+ years to move closer to us & their only granddaughter. The are wanting to come up in the next few weeks to find somewhere to live. If they don't find something I had already told them they could stay here (prior to all the BS) I see my husbands point that it was in bad taste for my dad to take it there and continues to go there, but he's my dad and I can't make him stop. I had kinda hinted my husbands feelings to my dad but his response was that it was between my husband and his brother and that his brother was good to him when my mom got sick (free oil changes where he used to be an employee before opening his own). I can't talk to my mom about it because of her brain surgery she doesn't speak well anymore and doesn't understand things sometimes. This situation is making me sick, I can't concentrate on work. My husband is very stubborn and very hard to reason with sometimes. I too think my dad shouldn't have gone there but I'm sure he's just trying to sell his truck to move up here and my husbands brother probably let him park it there for sale. My parents are 60+ and will also need help moving, which my husband said he's not going to help. I just don't know how to approach this situation, I hate conflict, why can't everyone just get along, life is too damn short! Any advise would be appreciated. Thanks

[warton26]

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[regenweald]

Your husband needs to grow up and get over this.He is punishing your parents for doing business with his brother? You said your brother had helped them out in the past so your dad is just returning they favor by doing business there.This doesn't have anything to do with your husband's family problems and since you got your money back this should be water under the bridge and be set aside.You parents are moving to be closer to you and your family and your husband is being so stubborn that he is willing to cause all this trouble.Once your parents get there they won't be doing any business with your husbands brother any more.Tell your husband that he needs to figure out a way to get over himself and help your parents out when ever he can.It seems they have enough to cope with since your mom has health issues.

Trust me, time goes by way to fast and parents are gone before we know it.Time for your husband to do some growing up and getting past the bad situation that is over and done with.

[hyun-su]

Tell your husband that life is to short, he should feel hurt about the whole car thing, but he needs to understand how terrible it would be to have your wife under go such an extreme procedure, so maybe he could try and understand that his brother was a huge comfort to him? Forgive and forget? Tell him how great it would be for your daughter to be able to se her grandparents more and how you really want to be with your mom right now. Tell him that you aren't doing it for him but for yourself and your daughter.

[arne33]

Sometimes writers on these sites can be so cold and harsh to others. Don't you let these commentors steer you the wrong way. Your husband and come before your dad. I totally get what your husband is saying and how he feels.I don't care if your dad is 60. At this age people are as strong as 40 year olds are sometimes!! Your dad should not have gone to your brother's store, after all that mess that happened. Your dad knew better!! And he does have a loyalty to your husband.
It is up to you to support your husband. I'm not saying ignore your dad, but don't defend your dad and not see your husband's side. AND SO WHAT IF YOUR HUSBAND IS A LITTLE SENSITIVE !! WE ALL ARE SOMETIMES!! He has not broken any law. Girl, you need to call your dad and explain how your husband feels. Anyway, they should not have sold their house and made plans to move close to you all, without discussions with you all. That was a hasty decision.