Parenting help for a teenager?

[marq]

I have a 14 year old daughter and her attitude at school is getting worst. She messes around in class gets removed for swearing even after getting told not to swear and does it again. Generally rude to teachers. Plays truant from lessons. we get phone calls nearly every day due to her behaviour. I even got a call from school saying she did not take any dinner money to school and got her dinner bought for her when i told the school she has packed lunch everyday they were shocked. When i asked my daughter about this she says she bins her sandwiches. Her general attitude is wrong and she is becoming mentored at school due to her behaviour. She is coming in to her gcse and her work is suffering due to this.

At home she is relatively behaved does not swear and even does any chores which are set and completes her homework when asked too. She gets in with the wrong people sometimes but i don't want to always blame them my daughter needs to take responsibility for her own actions. How do i deal with this. She needs to show respect to people and take note. She even misses out on going to friends houses due to her behaviour and if she does go out she goes to the local park and plays. I just want her to enjoy her years and i feel shes missing out on so much.

[celeste]

I'm a 13 year old girl but maybe I can help..
It seems your child is only misbehaving at school. Maybe it's because there are lots of other kids there doing bad stuff that she feels she has to do the same?
I think the best thing to do is talk to her. You say she bins her sandwiches, then ask her why. Maybe she likes the school dinners more - you could start giving her the money for those instead of wasting money on food which she is just binning.
Talk to her about what's going on - it could be she is struggling to concentrate during school and therefore her attitude is affected?
What you need to do is get some answers from her. Try to find some time to talk about her, and how she's feeling, especially in school. Make sure you use a gentle tone and if she doesn't want to answer a question, talk about something else then try to ask her again. Tell her that you are trying to get what is best for her and you don't want her grades to go down and that she should change the way she's acting before it's too late.
Hope this helps :)

[egann]

Listen.....That is normal for teenagers and it getting worst. At that age teenagers are wild.
Yelling, punishing them it will not help....Why? ....because they are in the stage of being wild. You cant stop them, eventually it will passed as they grow older.

And those drama in the family it will not help it will get worst only.
All you have to do is guide and advice them, but don't control them too much.

[lamarr3]

Listen.....That is normal for teenagers and it getting worst. At that age teenagers are wild.
Yelling, punishing them it will not help....Why? ....because they are in the stage of being wild. You cant stop them, eventually it will passed as they grow older.

And those drama in the family it will not help it will get worst only.
All you have to do is guide and advice them, but don't control them too much.

I'm a 15 year old girl but I have a friend like this.
She used to be so nice and caring and well mannered and then she changed.
I think it may be because her mum is super strict and gives her no freedom so she is trying to rebel against this.
Just try not ot be too controlling. You may think you are setting good boundaries and rules when actually it could be worsening her attitude.
If you can, try and talk to her about it in a chilled manner. Try and talk to her on her level as well.
Hope this helps :)