Worried about my family being to opionated on our breastfeeding decisions?

by **eddis** » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:48 am

hi there! I am currently on demand breastfeeding mom of my 10 month old daughter and 8wks pregnant with #2. after my last quetion I asked I was encouraged by other mothers to continue nursing even after baby #2 arrives. I am personaly a researcher, so I like to be knowlaged on things im interested in. me and my husband have came to the conclusion we will allow baby led weaning. if I am successful, well be more then happy to continue to nurse #1. my husband is very encouraging on breastfeeding, and thank god so is my mother and sister in law, as they were successful breast feeding mothers into the toddler years. how ever, my mother, whom im very close to, brother and sister, are not so much understanding and supportive of my breastfeeding (mother only breastfed me for 6mos) and are expecting me to wean shortly after her first birthday.thier comments are starting to bother me (have not mentioned we continue to nurse both after baby 2 arrives if she does not self wean) my sister has a new bf and is expecting in oct, she would love to breastfeed, but hes not very supportive of it really, as hes baffled ive breastfed this far along, and still questions me on it.( which who the hell is he to have anyroom to comment on my families decisions.. hes only been with my sister for 5 mos...) so if I am successful to breastfeed both, do I cut out my family so I cant hear thier comments that hurt,(even tho I dont think their motive is to hurt and make me umcomfortable). idk how to go about them, with out getting angry. they dont understand the difference of the bond between bottle and breastfed... thank you for your support... and haters go hate somewhere else thnx!

by **shen86** » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:51 am

Look here... this is real simple. The bottom line is that breast feeding confers health advantages to your child that bottle/formula feeding doesn't. End of story. So if your people are traumitized by the sight of a milk filled boob... tell them to bugger off until you're done. It's not about them. It's about your baby. You just keep on keepin on. :)

by **cadby** » Wed Jul 25, 2012 2:01 am

Listen to others politely, but do it your way. I feel sorry for your sister . She should get in touch with La Leche league to get info on bf. So her boyfriend does not like breastfeeding? Under no circumstances should he attempt it. If he was a real man, he would not be threatened by a real woman.

by **ammi** » Wed Jul 25, 2012 2:05 am

Honestly? Smile, say "it works for us" and move on to discuss something else. Your sister may need your support, from the sounds of it. I think it would be unkind of you to cut her out at this point.

by **ammi** » Wed Jul 25, 2012 2:08 am

Breast milk is the best option for baby period. Your family needs to understand that these are your children and your decisions. I would kindly explain to them that they are offending you and this is what your doing and if they cant keep their hurtful remarks to themselves. I am currently expecting and god willing I will breastfeed until the child is two. I believe once their old enough to climb in your lap and whip it out for themselved its time to ween lol

by **galvin** » Wed Jul 25, 2012 2:12 am

Breast Milk is best. So I would just listen to what they say and let it go out the other ear...because you are the mother and your decision is final. Plus your decision is the healthiest for you baby(s)! You can still try and be supportive of your sister. Her boyfriend should be making no comments about it, but sometimes people overstep their bounds-anyways, just ignore what he has to say, and continue to encourage her the best you can.

The only thing that I would be concerned about is that I've read and heard from my doctor that breastfeeding can cause contractions and start early labor...Im sure that doesnt happen very often, because my hubby's sister breastfed her toddler while she was pregnant with their baby,,,but just wanted to let you know in case you hadnt heard.

by **philibert63** » Wed Jul 25, 2012 2:23 am

When are you going to become a grownup? It's time to make your own decisions. If your family doesn't like them, tell them that you will bring the baby to visit only after he or she has weaned.

by **bing49** » Wed Jul 25, 2012 2:24 am

Ignore anyone who gives you crap.

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