Do you agree Malay or Muslim daughter in law broke heart of non muslim's in law?

[dent81]

Sad! Because!

1. In my country the children follow ways of Muslim life from mother and her parents.
2. The children do not know how to respect parents of father's family, culture and tradition.
3. The children acknowledge themselves as mother's family race;
e.g. if mother is Malay than they will say they are Malay ignore about father race

BUT! If father is Chinese or Indian

... according to Chinese or Indian culture the son has to carry family name and generation

... where is filial piety of Muslim's wife !

I wonder do they refuse to understand or do not wish to understand the in law's tradition or culture.

Or do Allah! Islam! followers should not follow the tradition or culture of non Muslim family?

This is Islam teaching that Nabi got from God?

[barraq]

The peace for you,

the child keeps the father's name. That's the tradition of the prophet.

Quran 33:4 translation
Allah has not made for a man two hearts in his interior. And He has not made your wives whom you declare unlawful your mothers. And he has not made your adopted sons your [true] sons. That is [merely] your saying by your mouths, but Allah says the truth, and He guides to the [right] way.

5. Call them by [the names of] their fathers; it is more just in the sight of Allah . But if you do not know their fathers - then they are [still] your brothers in religion and those entrusted to you. And there is no blame upon you for that in which you have erred but [only for] what your hearts intended. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.

[hackett]

Islam is from Allah.Islam guides humanity on each and every aspect of this life.It says a muslim woman shouldnot marry disbelievers in islam.So if any muslim woman is marrying a non muslim she is not following islam.No question of her children from a non muslim husband which is not a valid marriage at all.
A muslim man as he respects Jesus pbuh and Moses pbuh can marry jews and christian woman.Children will be muslims.

EVERY CHILD BORN IS A MUSLIM.PARENTS EITHER KEEP THEM ON IT OR DEVIATE THEM FROM TRUTH.

[erwin]

Children grow up in the lap of the mother, if she is not cultured, nurtured and educated in Islam, then what will be the quality of Islam and Iman of the children!?

[favian]

Islam is not Malay. Nor is it Arab. Islam belongs to everyone and every race. But Islam just like any other creed have its own laws and regulations. And it also has its own culture which is not the malay culture. i must admit that even some of the malay culture are in violation of Islamic culture. And if you look at the Indian muslims, some of their culture are also in violation of Islamic culture.

It is not a violation of the Islamic culture, if the father is Chinese or Indian and the children bears the father's family name. As long as it does not contradict the Islamic principles, there is no opposition to carry the father's family name. Infact personally i would recommend the children to follow the father's family name as this would show the diversity of Islam which is not base on a race. It is even permissible to celebrate Chinese New Year as long as they do not violate any Islamic principles. Infact it is much recommended if doing so will bring the families closer.

In conclusion, i personally would advise your daughter-in-law to respect Islamic principles instead of respecting Malay culture. And i would also like to take this oppurtunity to invite you to understand more about Islam so that you will have a better understanding of your son way of life as a muslim.

In Islamic principles, even though your son is now a muslim but your relationship with him as parents does not change. You will be his parents until the Day of Judgement. And in some respect you have more rights over him than your daughter-in-law.

i wish you well and may all will be well too.