Fiances family does not want to get to know me?

[sayre]

My new fiancé's family does not seem to care to get to know me. I find this to be very strange. My family has taken the time to get to know my fiancé and they really like him and are happy for us. My fiancé's family has never really even given me a chance. My fiancé has asked them if they dislike me or something and all they ever say is they just don't really care to get to know me. This bothers not only me but my fiancé as well. He has asked his family to try to get to know me but they won't. They are nice and polite when I am around them but no one asks me anything about my life or my opinions about anything. Its just weird. Don't get me wrong my family is not that close. We don't do the whole every holiday the family gets together type of thing but my family has at least made the effort to get to know the man I plan to marry. My only real thought is maybe my fiancé's family is angry that he is moving away from where they live to move in with me 4 hours away. Could that be it? Should I try to make them get to know me or is it a lost cause? I just find it so weird they don't want to get to know the woman their son is going to marry. They are going to be my in-laws and they just don't care. I don't understand. My fiancé does not care what they think he said he would marry me whether they like me or not but of course we would both prefer they like me. I don't know its just so weird that they don't care at all. Apparently they did the same with my fiancé's sister and her husband. His family does not speak to him at all and they don't know anything about him. Should I try to do something or just marry my fiancé and not worry about his family? My family has been better towards him anyway.

[teithi71]

maybe try something more subtle.. e.g. accompany him to a family occassion, like a birthday. this way it's not so confronting as a one-on-one. i guess some families don't want to accept that their children are growing up.

if your man genuinely doesn't care what his family thinks of you and will love, marry and respect you regardless.. then you've got yourself a keeper. he seems like a very good man.

[slaine]

I think @Leeee is exactly right.

Also, I doubt you're at fault as you know they were the same to their daughter's husband-to-be.

Unfortunately this is quite common. Time often heals and in time they may actually accept you. Anyway, when you're married your "home" will be elsewhere.