Fiances mother says i am a gold digger!!!?

[ricki]

I unfortunately I never got the oppritunity to meet my fiances mother in person before he proposed to me. She lives on the other side of the country. So last night I was listening to a conversation my fiance was having with be mother. She expresses that she thinks that I am shady, that I am just marrying him for his money and military benifits and that I lied to him about being on birth control and got pregnant.
At first it didn't bother me a bit because she is just overly protective of her son. But it slowly started to get under my skin because she is telling my fiances family that I am a gold digger and she does not even know me.
I work full time 40-50 hours a week and I am a military brat with my OWN military benefits. I am blessed to be with a man that wants to help me financially but if it makes me look bad because he makes way more money than me and he spends a portion of it for my expenses, then what do I need to do to not be considered a gold digger? In his mothers eyes?
I am actually beginning to resent and dislike his mother for telling his family lies about my character, its hard enough to communicate with his family just being long distance. And now that I am pregnant with his child, they are saying that I have officially "trapped" him. It makes me extremely sad that my in laws I don't even know have already painted a horrible picture of me and my character. What can I do to repair this.

[garbhach65]

Ask your fiance. It's his family.

[elton]

Think about this really hard...If his mother causes trouble by saying those things about you between you and your fiance, she knows she's winning the battle she's created because it will make you two argue and unhappy.

Don't let this bother you and cause conflict between you and him. Block it out and carry on with loving thoughts of your man and baby to be, no matter what a woman who doesn't even know you thinks or say's.

Let him deal with her as he see's fit and keep the peace with him. He's not the one who's causing this anyways.
Be strong!

[khalid]

Next time tell his mother that if he's happily taking care of you financially then that would make him a goldgiver, wouldn't it?