Is my boyfriend a gold digger?

[doran]

My boyfriend's last girlfriend came from a rich family. He once told me that he stopped hanging out with some guys because they were jealous of the type of girls he used to get. One day, we were talking about divorce laws and I was saying that I don't care if u're supposed to split things 50/50 because I would only want what I go into a marriage with, while he insisted on the 50/50 thing. If we were to get married and get divorced, I would probably have more to lose because I currently have more assets and make more than 2x his salary, but he's going to school (now getting a BSc at 33).
Tonight, we were talking about a friend who's an engineer. I was saying that he's not smart because he moved into his girlfriend's rental instead of buying himself a house, so she could put him out at anytime. My boyfriend said that if that happens, the engineer should demand all the money back from his girlfriend that he paid IN RENT!
Last year, my sister's friend told her that my boyfriend always used to say that he wanted a girl who could look after him. I disregarded that because the friend is a gossip and busybody, but now I'm reconsidering.
I don't spend alot of money on my boyfriend and he always buys me birthday gifts and brings me lots of small presents but still.... Also, we're supposed to get married soon.
Do you all think he's a gold digger?

[lorimar]

If you're supposed to get married soon, you need to discuss your roles in the marriage, how you're going to handle housework, cooking, laundry, if you are having children, and even finances.

Don't go into the marriage without discussion of your personal expectations. Especially when it comes to who-pays-what.

My husband and i had individual checking accounts, then there was the pot for household bills and other necessities. We figured out what we would each contribute, and it worked out well. He made more money than me, so he ended up putting more into the account, but it was fair, and if the tables were turned, i would have put more $ in. This way, it left us each with spending money, money to save, etc.

You might also let your boyfriend know that you respect people who can take adult responsibility for themselves, and that is what you expect from yourself as well as him during the marriage.

It seems he is doing nice things for you now, so that's a start. But do have the conversations so each of you understand what the other expects.

take care

[golding]

Hi its a possabilty that he is and you wont have much to lose GET A PRENUP call you're lawyer and ask around protect you're assets before you's e get married, however it well could be he could refuse to sign it which is a dead give away that hes a gold digger and hes thinking of taking you to the cleaners and clean you out. Remmbe do not marry him unless he signs that prenup be smart protect you're self and get that prenup. I wish you all the best goodluck.