He wants me to go on his family holiday. Should I?

[calvert]

I have been getting to know this guy for about a month. We have been on 4 dates. We both really like each other.

However, he asked me the other day if i would like to go away with his family in May (his mum, brother, neice, sister in law, mum's partner)

We are not officially together but we do get on well.

I am worried that this may be moving too fast. I haven't been dating him long and he wants me to spend 3 days with his family.

What do you think?

By the way. He is 28 and I am 22.

[koltin]

No. Thats too much.
3 days is entirely too long, and spending it with his entire family is way too much.
I'm 26, and men have proposed to me marriage before, so I'm pretty good with the whole 'getting to know one another' thing, I would definitely say that at this point; agreeing to spending 3 days overnight with his mom, sister in law, brother and niece to toooooooo much, tooooooo soon. You have no idea how things will be between you in May, so its not smart to commit to that trip yet.

Dont get me wrong, he definitely likes you, which is why he wants you to meet his whole family.
But you need to politely put the breaks on, and politely say 'no thank you', with a smile. If he wants you to meet his family, he should start off with a Sunday dinner with the family, not some 3 day overnight trip. But do not suggest a Sunday dinner--dont suggest anything--just say 'no thanks' with a smile and leave it at that. Be nice about it, say "thank you for inviting me", because it is a nice gesture, but just say "no thank you". (but dont suggest a Sunday dinner because then he might think you are desperate for him) .....If he asks you why you dont want to go, dont give a speech that its too fast, just just "oh, I'll see you when you get back", with a smile, and change the subject. The point of that is, you dont want to have some argument with him about this--you are an adult, you have the right to say no thank you, and you dont owe a big explnantion to anyone.

Its too soon to tell him yes to that. You pretty much just met. Plus alot can happen between now and May. You dont want him to think that he's 'got you' already by agreeing to this trip already. And if you commit to the trip, he will tell his whole family, but if you have an argument and decide not to go--his family will get upset.

Also, keep in mind that spending 3 days with your own family could be tiresome, much less spending it with someone else's family. You have all those personalities--his brother, his mom, his sister-in law, his niece--there's no telling what will happen. You could get sick, you could get your period early, his niece could throw up, his brother & sister in law could have a crazy argument or something--honey you dont need to throw yourself in that environment just now for 3 whole days! You dont need to "bond" so tightly with all these people just yet. If he invites you to lunch or to spend an afternoon with his family--of course go.

I would say see how this new friendship with him goes. Im sure there will be other daytrips in the future you could go to with them

Just be cool. He likes you :)

[hrafn]

Wow, four dates and he wants you to spend 3 days with his family? Have you spent 3 days alone with HIM yet?

Nope. Absolutely not. No. No way. Nu-uh. Notagonnahappen. No.

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