Help me! I'm 14 and desperate to move out. Can I?

[menw]

I'm 14 and live in England. I want to move out as my home is a very stressful place- parents arguing, shouting at one another etc.. I'm finding it hard to cope. I know this sounds stupid but I've tried options I thought would have taken away everything, I've tried getting incredibly drunk, on half a bottle of Vodka, I've tried a bottle of Wine too... I tried the wine when I was 10, and the vodka about 1-2weeks ago. I got so drunk on the vodka, even now I can't remember what happened. I feel I can't turn to anyone, apart from my cousin. They live way down south in UK, but I still text all the time. I don't trust my friends as they tend to tell propel things... I really want to move out, or take some time away from my family, like running away, but i know this is illegal. Because of the environment at home, I'm skipping school, and my attendance is below 42%… I know this is bad but I really can't help it. I really need to get away from everyone in my house. The only option is running away which I know I won't be able to do. I tend to also sometimes take swigs of spirits(Whiskey/Vodka) when I'm bored. No one knows though. - I can't help it and I know it's bad for my health. Please can you give me options on what I should do? If this helps- I've tried telling my mum I want to move out, but she tends to blow the topic over her head & says its unable to happen becuase of the law. Please help me? I really need some advice :'( :( Many thanks

[breasal]

LOL, I'm from the Soviet Union I got the **** beaten of me so quiet whining

[matyas]

Alcohol doesn't make anything better. You're just harming yourself.

You need to tell people at school and your relatives what's going on in with your parents and how it's affecting you. They can help or give you options. You are not old enough to support yourself so running away isn't an option.

Why are you skipping school? I would think that would be a safe place to be since it's away from home. You need to stop skipping. Again, you are only hurting yourself and preventing yourself from having a better life.

Talk to your mother again...but not about moving out. Tell her how things are affecting you. Ask for help.

[cuartio52]

You can't move out at 14.

[marmion]

Well, first things first, stop with the binge drinking, it's absolutely ridiculous, and get your behind to school. Start by sitting down your mum and dad and explaining to them exactly how much this is affecting you, because deep down parents really do care about your well being. And if it is that bad at home, see about going to any close by relatives house. Also, to get away a bit, start doing more activities, practise football, learn an instrument, or anything else that can take your mind off things, and keep yourself occupied. Hang out with your friends more, so you spend less time in the house. Also, behave for your parents and listen to them, so you don't instigate any other conflicts. But seriously cut out the unhealthy behaviour.r

[culley96]

Well, I posted on your first post of this question. Go check there. It's kinda lookin like the answers on this one are a bit less helpful than the other one so far...

[chason62]

Perhaps a boarding school, if that were possible for your family ... or there must be some sort of Child Protection Services in the U.K.

But all you hae said about your parents being poor parents .... "arguing, shouting at one another etc.". Unfortunately that may be "normal" in many homes.

Would it be possible that your parents find your home to be "a very streesful place" with their son "getting incredibly drunk", of drinking Vodka, wine, etc. And their son skips school more than half the time (many plaes parents could be in trouble with the law if their 14 yr old child were absent form school like that). They must find it stressful with your taking frequent swigs of spirits (whiskey/Vodka). when you are bored. Perhaps you wouldn't be as bored if you went to school and did your studies???

Get some help ... from a doctor, or school teacher ... or a police constable ...or whomsoever.

[adamka]

What you can do is ask your mom for money.Go to the mall stay as late as you can and make it home safely.When you start showing your doing responsible things in and out of the house.Your parents should give you more money to do more responsible things.