Horse Section Please Help?? Urgent?

[barraq]

First off I know this isn't a horse question, but I want your guys opinion on it please! Also this may be long...

I have a friend in my group of friends that lies a lot about a lot of things. I have another friend who owns a dog Kennel and her dog stayed with him for the weekend that they were away. She lied to us about her dog losing his toes when he fell out a car and them being scraped down to nubs. When I asked her a few weeks later about it she said they weren't any better but then mentioned that her dog stayed with my friend that has the dog kennel. I went and asked him if the dogs toes were nubs because I knew she was lying. Turns out she was and the dogs toes were fine. When I told her that she was lying she told us that she didn't get a close enough look at them to see and stuff and totally denied it. This was fine, however we kept bugging her about lying to us because she lies to us about lots of other stuff. She got really mad and ran away. We didn't talk to her for the rest of the day. This was two days ago.

This is now what happened yesterday. She didn't talk to us at all yesterday, but when I got home from school I had a text from her saying that I should leave other people out of her business and stuff. She sent this to my whole group of friends. I texted her back telling her that she should say it to my face if she had something to say. This kept going on for a few minutes and then I stopped texting her, as I;m not getting into a fight with her over a text message. She then said that my friend with the dog kennels was going to sue me and that her parents were going to sue me for "Slander of a family business" I talked to my friend with the dog kennel and he said he had no intentions and that she was lying. His mom phoned her dad because she was upset that they were saying things about there business.

She then came to me this morning saying that I needed to talk to her dad and that this was between me and her dad and that the guy with dog kennels was going to sue her ( Which they aren't... she told more lies...) She then accused me of spreading lies about her and stuff and yelling at me. I never did any of this and it had nothing to do with this at ALL. I, in a clam voice told her I would never do that to her, and that, I or anyone else in our group would ever say or do that to her. She said okay and then ran away.

What I'm concerned about is the lying as we are sick of it and don't want to keep letting her lie.

What are your thoughts on this? Should be kick her out of the group or approach her on her lying?

Also she can't sue me can she? All my friends are saying she can't and so is the kid with the dog kennel.

Thanks in advance. Sorry it is so long

xx

[pete]

She is obviously romantically attracted to you.

Ask her out.

[ingel]

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You all need to grow up.
You especially.

I think you're more messed up that she is. Seems like you're a huge attention seeker and she's just a story teller.

Grow. Up.

[hussein]

This is very long and not horse related but I will try and help.

This girl is a compulsive liar. She will lie when it is not needed because probably she craves attention. Whether this attention is due to some romantic attraction she has for you, as the user above me suggested, I am not sure but your best course of action is to completely disassociate yourself from her.

If this is impossible because you share the same circle of friends, then you can have fun with it. Instead of confronting her about her lies, just play along and ask questions. She will be forced to make up more lies and it will be funny with the kind of crap she will say.

Also, he father has no right to talk to you. Report him to your parents. You sound like a minor and adults cannot question minors without their guardian's presence. This is a federal law and he can be sued for it. In fact, people like that are usually suspected of being bullies and/or paedophiles. This could be why she lies so much....she is frustrated that her father is a peadophile. Anyway, don't say this or do anything to anger her further because she will lie more about you and make you look bad or worse, she may poison your horse.

Try not to ask non-horse related questions here especially if you get mad at people who troll here - what you are doing is not different. Just some friendly advice.

Good luck and God bless!

[emilek17]

Your friend is clearly very troubled about something, and it's unlikely she's going to feel able to tell you what it is; instead she's shielding herself with these stories. Her behaviour is unacceptable, despite whatever troubles she has, but so is the thought that you as a group might approach her and collectively ditch her as a friend. She's screaming out "INSECURE" with every breath; a quiet word individually would be much better than ganging up on her.

[aldric13]

blah blah blah

Go ask Dear Abby. She likes to deal with this sort of little girl wah wah stuff