How do i deal with my unstable mother? She is REALLY raising my blood pressure. She is so unstable?

[bellden]

Right now im 19 and finished my freshman year of college 1000 miles away from home. But im back for the summer at my moms.(my parents are divorced  since i was 4 cuz my mom os a lesbian. my dad was my guardian growing up.

My mother has 6 different mental illness and has been insitutionalized 3 times since i was born. (she has severe depression, pyschosis, anxiety, and a few others) She hasnt taken her meds in i dont know how many years. She is VERY unstable and its hard to deal with. (like she's even looked up gun laws to try to kill my father and stepmom, its that bad...which was why i never lived with her and i just visited) She lashes out in public to people, even my friends. So i have to pin her down sometimes. I try to have an intervention and get her to get help, but she wont. She says shes "afraid of life" and that nothing will help her. I dont know what to do....my family has given up too. My grandmother doesnt wanna hear it. She doesnt want my mom to go back to the institution cuz shes afraid of what the "jewish community will think) also my grandmother basically orders me out if the room if i express my concern about my mother. My grandmother just yells and screams and bangs her fists on the table and gets all upset. Once she threw a prayer book at me....

How do i deal with her? Its so stressful. And half the time she says she doesnt wanna deal with me cuz she "cant deal" and whenever i try to talk, she tries to order me out sometimes. I can never just talk to her mother to daughter....

All she does is yell and scream and freak out all the time. Once she tried to get me arrested cuz i was trying to find my glasses in the recycle bin downstairs (i accidentally threw them in there). She also always says she wants to not be here anymore and the world would better off without her. My friends are terrified of her.

And how do i get her to get help? She has had breast cancer in '98 and got a breast removed then, she's had athritis since she was 12 and was in a wheelchair then at that time (she obviously isnt now), she has fibromayalgia, horrible teeth, high blood pressure (shes supposed to take meds but she doesnt), eyeritis, imean, she hasnt been to the doctor in i domt know how long, and obviously she has insurance! She has so many things! But she chooses to suffer. Shes terrified of swallowing pills, and the liquid form she says "tastes bad", so she does nothing. WHAT CAN I DO?! Even her doctor tells her he cant "force her" to do things....

I feel like im the only one that wants to help her. (im an only child brw)

Also i have to be here for the summer cuz my dad said im not allowed to see him and come in the house til i have a summer job. So i havent even seen him since winter break! I love my dad so much, but he's not exactly stable either...but its easier to deal with than my mom.

But it scares me cuz she is red all the time and she shakes and stutters sometimes.

But she just freaks out about everything and completely disrespects me and treats me like crap b/c she freaks out about everything and screams.

How do i help her?

I tell her to go to the doc and take her meds for all of us, but she wont. She will never do anything period. But shes SO concerned about my health sll the time and thinks im gonna die since i have polycystic kidney disease (since i was born....got it from my dad), but it wont get serious til im older anyway...

[chepito]

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[zacchaeus21]

Copy and paste in a SPAN of 6 minutes about 4 different times. I think you are a troll. Next TIME dont write a NOVEL & i may have answered your QUESTION

This is a rather sad story. A teenager dealing with a mentally ill parent is a very tough situation. Since you cannot force her to take her medications I have to suggest that you stay away from her. She basically needs to be institutionalized permanently so that she gets the medical care and daily living assistance she needs. This is way beyond your scope of understanding or authority. She apparently handles herself when you are not there, 1000 miles away in college. May I suggest that you return and take summer courses or find a summer job at this college? Sorry, but this is in your best interest. This is similar to living with an addict who also will not take meds to regulate the habits. Very frustrating and very impossible to deal with. I wish you dad was more cooperative and understanding of your situation. See if you can get him to change his mind about you seeing him. That is one tough position to take. You obviously need him very much. Work on that. And, sorry to say, you need to leave home. Find a way to get this done. Tough. Very tough. I shall pray for you. Best of luck.