How Do You Explain To A Family Member That You Don't Care To Be Invited To Any Family Events Because There Are Other

[LAngley]

family members that you don't care to see anymore.

[josephus]

Depends Who's running this show? Who's running your life? You are willing to let your "feelings" deprive you of valuable time with your family. Oh, poor pitiful me. Get mad. Its your life. Don't let some goose egg ruin your fun. Or, you can say you have a headache. And you will. boatman 79 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[wilbart]

Divalicious said: 1 Why do you need to explain? I would just continue to politely decline without going into detail. That will prevent family members from passing on your comments and possibly embellishing them(like grade schoolers playing "telephone"). And in the future if you decide to get together will all your family again, there will be no hard feelings or eating crow necessary. 79 months ago

[Giollaruaidh]

At least you're invited! I've been cut off from all my relatives(except my kids, thank God!) for who knows what the real reason is. All I can do, to stay sane, is remember the good times when I was younger and loved. And most importantly, move on. Life's short and I've learned to concentrate on the here and now and people who DO care about me. Communicate with your family members then move on.

[Baiardo]

It is better not to get into discussions about the issue because the question "why" will always come up.  Then there will be discussions about that which you really don?t want to get into. I suggest that you just decline invitations and make up reasons.  After a while, they will get the hint.  This happened to me where a brother of my did that for over 15 years for Christmas family get togethers, cemetery visits for our parents, etc.  Each time no reason was given and no suggestions were made for other dates to re-arrange the event.  Basically, if someone is interested then they will say I am sorry, I can?t make that date but how about.....   Since no suggestions were made, that told me they were not interested.  My sister-in-law did not want anything to do with my family and my brother went along with that for all those years.  Now my brother and I talk almost every day.  Strange stuff. I never really did understand what the riff was all about because there is no real reason to hold a grudge for over 10 years unless it was something almost criminal - there was none of that though.

[Vail]

You don't explain why: You just decline all invitations for various reasons It is better not to get into discussions about the issue because the question "why" will always come up.  Then there will be discussions about that which you really don?t want to get into. I suggest that you just decline invitations and make up reasons.  After a while, they will get the hint.  This happened to me where a brother of my did that for over 15 years for Christmas family get togethers, cemetery visits for our parents, etc.  Each time no reason was given and no suggestions were made for other dates to re-arrange the event.  Basically, if someone is interested then they will say I am sorry, I can?t make that date but how about.....   Since no suggestions were made, that told me they were not interested.  My sister-in-law did not want anything to do with my family and my brother went along with that for all those years.  Now my brother and I talk almost every day.  Strange stuff. I never really did understand what the riff was all about because there is no real reason to hold a grudge for over 10 years unless it was something almost criminal - there was none of that though. v70xc2000 79 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Jerriel]

You simply state youy are busy if they invite you. If they don't, just don't contact them. Sources: My opinion LibraAngel1966 79 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Medwine]

You just tell it like it is... At least you're invited! I've been cut off from all my relatives(except my kids, thank God!) for who knows what the real reason is. All I can do, to stay sane, is remember the good times when I was younger and loved. And most importantly, move on. Life's short and I've learned to concentrate on the here and now and people who DO care about me. Communicate with your family members then move on. Sources: wisdom through MY ages   JWJ3's Recommendations Birds, Beasts, and Relatives Amazon List Price: $14.00 Used from: $6.35 Average Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5(based on 8 reviews) Daily Affirmations for Forgiving and Moving On Amazon List Price: $9.95 Used from: $0.62 Average Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5(based on 10 reviews) Dare to Forgive: The Power of Letting Go and Moving On Amazon List Price: $12.95 Used from: $3.01 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5(based on 2 reviews) The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond Amazon List Price: $14.95 Used from: $2.45 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5(based on 220 reviews) The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships Amazon List Price: $18.97 Used from: $5.97 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5(based on 16 reviews) Difficult Conversations Amazon List Price: $12.95 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5(based on 131 reviews) Next Thanksgiving that comes along, be thankful that you HAVE somewhere to go. JWJ3 79 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.

[Arndell]

Who's running this show? Who's running your life? You are willing to let your "feelings" deprive you of valuable time with your family. Oh, poor pitiful me. Get mad. Its your life. Don't let some goose egg ruin your fun. Or, you can say you have a headache. And you will.

[Covell]

Why do you need to explain? I would just continue to politely decline without going into detail. That will prevent family members from passing on your comments and possibly embellishing them(like grade schoolers playing "telephone"). And in the future if you decide to get together will all your family again, there will be no hard feelings or eating crow necessary.